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I'm actually kinda shocked how for the most part y'all have jumped to negitive assumptions.... We don't know him nor was we part of the conversation. I don't think meeting someone new is a waste of time... Good, bad or indifferent it's a experience. Just make sure the first meet is in a neutral public place and you are comfortable with the arrangements. I, for one, never said meeting someone new is a waste of time. OP said he is shy and waited two months to meet his last date. That, in my book, is wasting A LOT of time. Now now CG... Did I quote you or say that's what you said????? Uh no 
I just made a comment about what I thought You did not. I just haven't seen anything really negative in the thread. People were asked their opinion. Based on the facts she presented, it seems like a waste of time. But hey, it's her time to waste. I'm happy you commented. I'm all for speaking your mind. I find it difficult to express myself... 
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 when you express yourself that sounds kinda dirty
Sorry for side track JBH Hope you update us on what happens next! |
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Yes. Women seem to like when a guy "expresses" himself properly...
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Oh -ell Maybe his Harley is broke down in the garage.
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He is most likely on fixed income and can't afford to own and drive a vehicle. My dad was never able to get a drivers license, but drove anyway. Most likely is having trouble financially. I know a number of people in my age group living on fixed income of less then $600 a month. If your rent is $400 a month, that does not leave enough to eat, pay for power, water, phone, etc. He may not have any teeth or does not have anything good to wear or something like that and is just looking for an excuse. If it was me I would use the phone and just talk to him and find out. Don't just ask him directly to make him uncomfortable. Once you have his name and address I would do a little digging.
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I met a guy online. We messaged a lot back and forth. He asked for my number and called me last night. We talked for about 9 hours straight. We were supposed to meet today but besides being too tired (got to bed at 5am), he said heās very shy and it takes him awhile for the actual meeting in person. Iām ready now to meet. Hereās the problem. He lives almost an hour away and doesnāt have a car. He would be willing to take public transit but I live in a small town where there is none. That would put the driving responsibility on me. We both agreed that we like each other but we havenāt actually met. Should I take a chance and pursue this? Please give me your thoughts. jbh if you haven't got any real bad vibes and you are interested then by all means meet. have him do the public trans a and meet in the middle some place and than will also insure a public place meeting |
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We talked for about 9 hours straight
Wow, I can't do ANYTHING for 9 hrs straight 
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He needed a raincheque for a first meet? Don't pursue. Let him pursue you. Update: right after I posted this, he called and changed his mind. He didnāt want to wait to meet. So I decided to take a chance. He is very handsome, polite, educated, well spoken. Acted like a gentleman. He is a bit ....odd, nerdy, not sure how to describe it. He writes philosophy papers  . Creates music electronically which I didnāt really understand. I asked about why no car, he said itās a long story but bottom line is he canāt afford it right now. The distance is a little less without traffic 35-40 minutes. I like him. Not sure where it goes from here if anywhere.
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OP should just go boink the guy. Seriously? Maybe I did.
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Edited by
I_love_bluegrass
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Sat 11/24/18 04:00 AM
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Update: right after I posted this, he called and changed his mind. He didnāt want to wait to meet. So I decided to take a chance. He is very handsome, polite, educated, well spoken. Acted like a gentleman. He is a bit ....odd, nerdy, not sure how to describe it. He writes philosophy papers . Creates music electronically which I didnāt really understand. I asked about why no car, he said itās a long story but bottom line is he canāt afford it right now. The distance is a little less without traffic 35-40 minutes. I like him. Not sure where it goes from here if anywhere.
You know...as someone who is on the Aspergers spectrum...maybe he has this, or is an also INTJ (Myers-Briggs) or something else that makes him socialy awkward. I know *I* have a hell of a time meeting people...I am socially awkward, nerdy in many ways.. Talking on the phone? I'm good..especially when we have things in common to chat about... And, once I feel comfortable, I love being with someone I click/ resonate with, and am a hell of a fun person..but intitially, it's hard. Now, before some moron chimes in with their opinion...if you don't personally know an adult with Aspergers, ADHD or anything about the Myers-Briggs typing..you can't possibly undstand..so.. |
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He needed a raincheque for a first meet? Don't pursue. Let him pursue you. Update: right after I posted this, he called and changed his mind. He didnāt want to wait to meet. So I decided to take a chance. He is very handsome, polite, educated, well spoken. Acted like a gentleman. He is a bit ....odd, nerdy, not sure how to describe it. He writes philosophy papers . Creates music electronically which I didnāt really understand. I asked about why no car, he said itās a long story but bottom line is he canāt afford it right now. The distance is a little less without traffic 35-40 minutes. I like him. Not sure where it goes from here if anywhere.
Cool... |
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OP should just go boink the guy. Seriously? Maybe I did.
Minx |
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He needed a raincheque for a first meet? Don't pursue. Let him pursue you. Update: right after I posted this, he called and changed his mind. He didnāt want to wait to meet. So I decided to take a chance. He is very handsome, polite, educated, well spoken. Acted like a gentleman. He is a bit ....odd, nerdy, not sure how to describe it. He writes philosophy papers . Creates music electronically which I didnāt really understand. I asked about why no car, he said itās a long story but bottom line is he canāt afford it right now. The distance is a little less without traffic 35-40 minutes. I like him. Not sure where it goes from here if anywhere.
Electronic music? Maybe this is about background music for ads? Some companies are looking for that. Anyway, would that chap have a driving licence? He could still hire a car. |
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OP should just go boink the guy. Seriously? Maybe I did.
That's awesome! |
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Update: right after I posted this, he called and changed his mind. He didnāt want to wait to meet. So I decided to take a chance. He is very handsome, polite, educated, well spoken. Acted like a gentleman. He is a bit ....odd, nerdy, not sure how to describe it. He writes philosophy papers . Creates music electronically which I didnāt really understand. I asked about why no car, he said itās a long story but bottom line is he canāt afford it right now. The distance is a little less without traffic 35-40 minutes. I like him. Not sure where it goes from here if anywhere.
 it's a start.
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Is his electronic music like schlager music in Europe?
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Is his electronic music like schlager music in Europe? Iām not sure. He takes clips of music and blends them with these electonic keyboards and other equipment. |
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