I am gay and no one in the family know that. my mam wants me to get married. but I don't have interest and feeling with girls. how I can solve this crisis of married

separated with boyfriend .

Separated means separated from spouse. Not boyfriend or girlfriend.

Welcome to M2.

thank you for clearing. but advice needed

I suppose you are over 18? Why do you need to ask your mother? You are an adult and able to make your own decisions. JMO

There are lots of options.
1. tell your family you're gay.
1a. figure out if you tell them you're gay are they going to pester you to hurry up and get married to a guy and if it's just the idea of marriage that really scares you.
2. become independent, move away from your family, live your life how you want to.
3. find a beard.
4. see if you are attracted to drag queens, or cd's, or trans, or whatever guys that look like girls that will fool your mam.
5. suffer in silence.
6. try to maintain two lifestyles.
7. figure out what exactly your family will do if you:
- never get married.
- tell them you're gay.
and which consequence you fear the worst.
8. seek out a professional therapist and counselor.
9. attend a religious training camp that promise to make you straight.
10. focus on school and/or career so you can procrastinate and buy time.

Well...
Since you're still married,
wait for your divorce to become final.

Maybe you should Talk to your mother and say how you feel right away.

thank you for advice's. but unfortunately I cannot able to tell my parents that I am gay because the following reasons
1. they will insult me and humiliated
2. they chase me away in the house
3. I will fear about homophobia in my clan and street .
4. our government never support LGBT
5. If you say to stay far away from the family. I cannot afford to start my life because I don't have work or capital to drive my life.

the problem that they hates gays . and I live home.

she will hates me and humiliated . and chase me away. because she hates gays

Are you about 10 yrs old?

you are 29.. time to get out on your own, ( actually you should have been out already)even if it is tough. Then you can live whatever life you want.

their house.. their rules.. your house.. your rules

I would take option 10 of CireToms suggestions..
get a job and move out - you're 29..

I must agree with just about what everyone else has said so far. I feel the real question is why are you still at home at 29? If in fact you are 29.

If it is truly who you are, prove to yourself and family that you are happy with yourself. As a parent I may not always like the choices my children may make but, I support them anyway. I love them no matter what. I am sure most parents are/will be the same.

Take pride in yourself even when others may make you feel less than you are.
Step up and be the young man you want to be. Live your life in a way that makes you happy not others.

You don't know about African culture

thank you for advice

thanks

No, we don't know about, or understand African culture..

Maybe you could find a site where the people *are* familiar with it, and be able to give you more appropriate advice, based on culture?

Peace, my friend.