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Topic: What amuse me reading women's profiles
JONTHRASHER12's photo
Sat 07/14/18 02:14 AM



I read that post about 20 times, I'm still not sure I really understand it.

I’m with you on that...made zero sense :joy::joy::joy:

I'm surprised by that as I felt like "Finally a man who understands" (most don't) and was happy that for a change this message is coming from a man.

If you attract mostly 'poor quality' men and men who are after sex only it is indeed because of what you yourself exude. And that is either your own photos OR the way you present yourself.
And this is indeed by posting in a negative way: "If you want X DO NOT contact me"

Most women seem to think this will hold them off while in actual fact it attracts the men they don't want and repels good guys.

I was going to post "This is one of the best postings on here ever" and I love it coming from a man, so I'm quite shocked to see the replies.
that's because it's victim blaming it's wrong to immediately push for sex on anyone man or woman without them literally asking for it and this issue can be seen from terry crews to pick a female anywhere and they've probably delt with it

Easttowest72's photo
Sat 07/14/18 02:18 AM

your not getting the message or understanding the post.
First of all every time I view a females profiles not all but theirs a few its always the same thing the men blame I was hurt then it becomes a trust issue.
Then they say am.not here for sex ok I think we all get that .
But to over do it by showing off a bit more as expected such as breast and minor skirts show off the coche kinda not far that's how you get these men all around you .
I grew up in a family all church people also there was no judging or insults if their was we had the belt or soap on the mouth .
But to get to my topic point being is if a female wants to dress that way so be it but don't expect anything nice all your going to get in return is a bunch of hounds looking for a piece of meat .
Nothing wrong expressing my thoughts in a post I have a right too my amendments.
My spelling is not so good I.have very bad arthritis in.my hands.


Why not just focus on profiles where the women are dressed appropriately for church? I don't see how posting that she doesn't want a man who is just looking for sex, is turning away good guys. Because guys reading her profile are willing to get to know her as a person or they aren't. It takes time and the ones only looking for sex will move on. It sounds like you are angry, that the pics you are attracted to, have turned you down from your true intentions before you ever sent the 1st email.

dreamerana's photo
Sat 07/14/18 08:33 AM


your not getting the message or understanding the post.
First of all every time I view a females profiles not all but theirs a few its always the same thing the men blame I was hurt then it becomes a trust issue.

°°° The statement above can be applied to bith genders. There are also men who judge women by the women in their own past.
Until a person can heal and forgive, it won't be easy to have a positive relationship.

Then they say am.not here for sex ok I think we all get that .

°°° No. Guys don't all get that. Both online and not online, there is a high percentage of guys who say things like aww come on. We're all adults. Or friends with benefits. Or simply straight up say lets go rent a room. Nit let's go have coffee. Nit let's do dinner.
Simply let's get a room.


But to over do it by showing off a bit more as expected such as breast and minor skirts show off the coche kinda not far that's how you get these men all around you .

°°° I can't speak for other websites becuase I've only been on this one. Here on Mingle if a picture were to be inappropriate, it would be taken down and the person would get their account deleted.
So if you are seeing those pictures here, you can report them.
If you are going to websites that offend you, nobody is forcing you to look at that.

Additionally, a person can dress how they feel comfortable.
I love wearing my little shorts and tank tops. I love my little sundresses. That just means i like being comfortable, especially in this hundred degree heat we're having. It doesn't mean I'm looking to get laid.

I grew up in a family all church people also there was no judging or insults if their was we had the belt or soap on the mouth .

°°° Even church people or church going people or pillars of the community commit immoral acts.
Look at church leaders who molest young children. Or the mayor who did time for child pornography.
Or the model church going father of 5 in our community who molested somebody his own daughter's age.

Growing up getting beaten for one's infractions doesn't guarantee that person will turn out a good person.
Some do. Many don't. Because they don't do anything to resolve the emotional distress they grew up with. Unless a person resolves the emotional trauma they grew with, they are likely to repeat that pattern.


But to get to my topic point being is if a female wants to dress that way so be it but don't expect anything nice all your going to get in return is a bunch of hounds looking for a piece of meat .

°°° The perverts of the world are the perverts of the world. They will prey upon whoever they choose regardless if the victim dresses modestly or not.


Nothing wrong expressing my thoughts in a post I have a right too my amendments.
My spelling is not so good I.have very bad arthritis in.my hands.



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Sat 07/14/18 11:11 AM
People dress like they want in their own houses.
That is not a free pass to disrespect someone.

olivepit's photo
Sat 07/14/18 12:38 PM

People dress like they want in their own houses.
That is not a free pass to disrespect someone.



That's Right !

Up2youandme's photo
Sat 07/14/18 12:57 PM

People dress like they want in their own houses.
That is not a free pass to disrespect someone.



Unfortunately most men are shallow, thick and slow. Makes it tougher for women to feel sexy about themselves and not attract the wolves.

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Mon 07/16/18 10:54 AM
I have to admit that reading a lot of women's post amuse me meaning (if your looking for SEX then walk away ) Am like ok what is wrong with this person? First and for most directing that one way ticket staying single for a very long time your scaring the good men away so you need to stop that attitude and understand not all men after SEX.


Second of all here's the main problem if the men asking for sex then probably means that your exposing yourself a bit to much either from the legs to the breast so if you don't want that type of negativity then don't post photos like that.
I very rare check this site out way to many fake profiles but if your truly looking for a good man stop the attitudes and neg photos simple as that .Am a man saying this . mike5311971



Well thank you for the fortune cookie wisdom there Mr. mike5311971, so do we get a free bowl of general Tso kung poa chicken?

While you might find it amusing that some women don’t want sex right away, you can’t fault them or ridicule them for their decision, some women are actually are looking for a long term relationship and once in the relationship and that emotional bond is reached they have no problem releasing their inner freakiness in the bed room.

I have to correct you on something when you posted that if the men are asking for sex then it means they are exposing themselves.


The truth is many women including some on the forums have very classy photos, not provocative or even close to sensual, men will message them for sex particularly if they are on at night or the weekend.


Most of these guys have a stick and see approach, they say the same thing to every women hoping to find one that will say yes and not charge them by the hour or minute.


A good man would never proposition a woman for sex from the get go especially when she has clearly indicated she is looking for something long term and that doesn’t mean she is adverse to having sex, she doesn’t want to just have sex with every Tom , D ick and Harry on the first date.

I’m not sure why that is hard to understand?


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Mon 07/16/18 10:59 AM

I have to admit that reading a lot of women's post amuse me meaning (if your looking for SEX then walk away ) Am like ok what is wrong with this person? First and for most directing that one way ticket staying single for a very long time your scaring the good men away so you need to stop that attitude and understand not all men after SEX.
Second of all here's the main problem if the men asking for sex then probably means that your exposing yourself a bit to much either from the legs to the breast so if you don't want that type of negativity then don't post photos like that.
I very rare check this site out way to many fake profiles but if your truly looking for a good man stop the attitudes and neg photos simple as that .Am a man saying this .



Good god... I cannot understand how people became so clueless. Is it all about the internet and lack of social skills or are people just stupider than when I was growing up?

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