Topic: Singles Meetups
KarenW8's photo
Wed 05/09/18 04:03 PM
Asking the guys who attend these kind of social functions..why is it that the more i dress up the less I get asked to dance. Last week I really went all out with a new dress, shoes, hairstyle makeup..the whole day getting ready. Sat mostly with the other ladies at our table talking about jobs and kids and pets, etc..not one dance. Last month I wore blue jeans and really looked like I just got out of bed and danced the night away..what gives, am I missing something..looking for thoughts on this before I decide to quit my meetup group.

gdaddy47's photo
Wed 05/09/18 05:03 PM
I would say casual is always good. Never been to a meet up because they are so far away

stan_147's photo
Wed 05/09/18 05:27 PM

Asking the guys who attend these kind of social functions..why is it that the more i dress up the less I get asked to dance. Last week I really went all out with a new dress, shoes, hairstyle makeup..the whole day getting ready. Sat mostly with the other ladies at our table talking about jobs and kids and pets, etc..not one dance. Last month I wore blue jeans and really looked like I just got out of bed and danced the night away..what gives, am I missing something..looking for thoughts on this before I decide to quit my meetup group.


My best guess is that you look more relaxed and approachable dressed down, and possibly too nice (read high maintenance) when dressed to the 9’s.

Either way, get out, smile, make eye contact and have a good time regardless of how many ask you to dance.

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Wed 05/09/18 06:21 PM

Asking the guys who attend these kind of social functions..why is it that the more i dress up the less I get asked to dance. Last week I really went all out with a new dress, shoes, hairstyle makeup..the whole day getting ready. Sat mostly with the other ladies at our table talking about jobs and kids and pets, etc..not one dance. Last month I wore blue jeans and really looked like I just got out of bed and danced the night away..what gives, am I missing something..looking for thoughts on this before I decide to quit my meetup group.


More approachable in jeans/casual attire...

Why didnt you take yourself out on the dance floor and enjoy yourself?

I wouldnt quit the group especially if you enjoy most of those that attend and the activities..

kmak932's photo
Thu 05/17/18 08:13 PM
Well than I would had loved to dance with you but I am legally blind but just love to dance with anyone

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Thu 05/17/18 08:32 PM
This is going to sound bad Karen, but it depends on how you dressed up
it could be that you looked too nice dressed up and it spells high maintenance.

Or you dont look as good dressed up as you think?

I will give you an example, friend of mine works at the Bank of America, she dresses in her business attire, she looks amazing, but in jeans she looks awful.

My cousin is a jeans girl look sharp, but when she dresses up , nope.

Casual maybe your thing, or at least at this singles meet up thing.

Go to another singles meet up , one in casual and one dressed up and see what happens, if its the same thing then you know.

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Fri 05/18/18 02:48 PM

Asking the guys who attend these kind of social functions..why is it that the more i dress up the less I get asked to dance. Last week I really went all out with a new dress, shoes, hairstyle makeup..the whole day getting ready. Sat mostly with the other ladies at our table talking about jobs and kids and pets, etc..not one dance. Last month I wore blue jeans and really looked like I just got out of bed and danced the night away..what gives, am I missing something..looking for thoughts on this before I decide to quit my meetup group.


LOL

Most of the single group meetups I have attended end with the ladies exchanging numbers and yakking after it's over, the men have split.

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Fri 05/18/18 08:04 PM
could it be a matter of being overdressed for the venue/ crowd/occasion?