The first thing I look for in relationships is the person attention towards me!! What do you think ladies?

Attention...no. Honesty...yes

That's true but you go by stage by stage first the attention and then comes the honesty for example you cannot take a week or month to noa if someone is honest honest comes by thrust and that is daylly encounter!!!

You can sense honesty or sincerity in the attention they give you. I don't look for how much attention they're giving me in the beginning, what matters more is whether the attention they're giving me feels genuine and sincere to me.

I want to know his attitude toward women in general before I even worry about his attitude toward me.

men are visualize... 1st attention then comes the values of humanity

If he is Honest ! That doesn't take very long for me to tell.

How they treat the waiter or waitress tells it’s own story. Or people in general really.

I’ve never looked for it though, just felt it.

Yes, more so how they treat others in general, women, and imo, anyone. It's a good indication of how they will treat you further down the road.

I never thought I need a relation... and the more I saw long-term relations want to break, bored of the relation, cheating... the more I knew relations isn't the answer...

so, This may explain my alteration of your question to "what do you look for in a partner (a lover)?" To which my answer should safely be:

excitement.. high-tension... challenge... independence (of both)... strong personality.. classiness.. culture-awareness

but all these things are useless if the look hadn't score above 8.5 on The Richter Scale... few women strike me by their beauty, personality, a great smile... the rest are females..

What I look forward to is the feeling of being wanted and cared for and someone who I feel I could run to and be my comfort. It’s good to feel wanted. And not by the police lol

Although this isn't the first thing I look for, actually I'm not really sure I look for anything in particular to be honest, it's more about how I feel when I'm with the person.

But what you said sis, the good feeling one gets from being wanted. I believe that's huge with me and one thing I've lacked in most of my relationships. The feeling that I am needed and wanted.

Could be insecurities, could be the men I choose due to feelings of not deserving more. For whatever reason, I more or less ended up begging for attention rather than receiving it naturally because I mattered enough for him to give it.

Well, I do matter and I do desire to feel like I matter. And I do deserve to be shown that I matter.

So I will definitely be looking for signs that I matter in the future! Little messages or nudges that let me know I'm being thought of. Taking the time to ask me how my day was. Just the simple little things one does to show another that they care.

Thanks sis

^^^ Even better

May I say YOU matter to ME sis if we find the guy who never wants to see tears in our eyes and finds joy in our smile then HE is God sent. And a shower together oh well no comment there

Thanks sis, you matter to me as well

How can you noa is true you have a lot of fake people in world

Did you mean, how can you know?

If so, then that’s the beauty of it, boy meets girl, fire works, brass bands with trumpets, Supernovas dancing about in the sky, if she makes you feel like this she’s a keeper, and vice versa.

To even mention fake means you may have trust issues mate, there’s a lot of good people in this world too.

I’m with you. Because it’s important to assess, as quickly as possible, his back scrubbing pressure and technique. Is there any bigger turn off than a man who leaves you lacking with his loofah?

Devastated here, I always thought size didn’t matter

Going out and getting a free Happy Meal at McDonalds