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Interesting question. My answer is probably less exciting than most. However if the goal is a lifetime then probably intellectual. Physical will change with passage of time and would make a poor foundation. Emotionally, differences are actually helpful if not necessary and spiritual requires an honest intellectual series of conversations to learn from each other and connect at a meaningful level. Having said that I suspect you could make an intelligent argument for any order. I would think though that boredom is the biggest thief of passion and easiest to keep at bay with an intellectually compatible partner. If two people are intellectually connected but not emotionally sensitive to each other’s feelings I do think that no amount of knowledge can make the relationship last? Yes that makes sense. I guess My initial thought is that two people who express themselves emotionally may struggle and two who are quite different may find it easier to support each other. But to your point emotionally connected doesn’t mean emotionally identical. I do think that someone who shares intellectual interests makes for better communication. Even so, I agree that being of the same mind but lacking emotional empathy would be a problem. |
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Interesting question. My answer is probably less exciting than most. However if the goal is a lifetime then probably intellectual. Physical will change with passage of time and would make a poor foundation. Emotionally, differences are actually helpful if not necessary and spiritual requires an honest intellectual series of conversations to learn from each other and connect at a meaningful level. Having said that I suspect you could make an intelligent argument for any order. I would think though that boredom is the biggest thief of passion and easiest to keep at bay with an intellectually compatible partner. If two people are intellectually connected but not emotionally sensitive to each other’s feelings I do think that no amount of knowledge can make the relationship last? Yes that makes sense. I guess My initial thought is that two people who express themselves emotionally may struggle and two who are quite different may find it easier to support each other. But to your point emotionally connected doesn’t mean emotionally identical. I do think that someone who shares intellectual interests makes for better communication. Even so, I agree that being of the same mind but lacking emotional empathy would be a problem. Yes i do not think emotionally identical is possible unless people are conjoined twins or connected in some higher way. Sometimes when two people are intellectually matched they have a thing about outsmarting one another. There will never be a boring conversation but you must admit that conflicts are not too far away? To me a combination of hot and cold or a perfect mix of coffee and cream makes for a better and interesting situation. No boring moments too just complementing each other. I admire and enjoy talking to smart people specially when they emphatize with me that I cannot possibly know everything but don’t look down and think it’s a waste of time to chat with someone not as smart lol. Emotionally connected people have this kind of thing. An acceptance and sensitivity. |
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Interesting question. My answer is probably less exciting than most. However if the goal is a lifetime then probably intellectual. Physical will change with passage of time and would make a poor foundation. Emotionally, differences are actually helpful if not necessary and spiritual requires an honest intellectual series of conversations to learn from each other and connect at a meaningful level. Having said that I suspect you could make an intelligent argument for any order. I would think though that boredom is the biggest thief of passion and easiest to keep at bay with an intellectually compatible partner. If two people are intellectually connected but not emotionally sensitive to each other’s feelings I do think that no amount of knowledge can make the relationship last? Yes that makes sense. I guess My initial thought is that two people who express themselves emotionally may struggle and two who are quite different may find it easier to support each other. But to your point emotionally connected doesn’t mean emotionally identical. I do think that someone who shares intellectual interests makes for better communication. Even so, I agree that being of the same mind but lacking emotional empathy would be a problem. Yes i do not think emotionally identical is possible unless people are conjoined twins or connected in some higher way. Sometimes when two people are intellectually matched they have a thing about outsmarting one another. There will never be a boring conversation but you must admit that conflicts are not too far away? To me a combination of hot and cold or a perfect mix of coffee and cream makes for a better and interesting situation. No boring moments too just complementing each other. I admire and enjoy talking to smart people specially when they emphatize with me that I cannot possibly know everything but don’t look down and think it’s a waste of time to chat with someone not as smart lol. Emotionally connected people have this kind of thing. An acceptance and sensitivity. That makes sense. In my experience someone who is emotionally sensitive seems to thrive when their partner is less emotional. However there is still an acceptance and sensitivity as you suggest. Just not the way I was looking at it. On the intellectual, to me, it's not a matter of who is "smarter". I believe that life experience is the best education, but when I first answered this I was thinking that if I have something in common intellectually, those conversations are much easier. I have coached college athletes for over 30 years and I love the conversations and I learn from it. However, my intellectual experience is not greater, but it's different. As are my frames of reference. Even if I am attracted physically, sensitive and accepting emotionally and on the same page spiritually, I wouldn't be optimistic about a lifetime partnership with them. It's not the age difference (or at least not just the age difference), it's the intellectual difference based on experience and frame of reference. When with someone who shares that intellectual level with me, I believe the choice to love them that needs to be made daily, would be easier to make. |
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Interesting question. My answer is probably less exciting than most. However if the goal is a lifetime then probably intellectual. Physical will change with passage of time and would make a poor foundation. Emotionally, differences are actually helpful if not necessary and spiritual requires an honest intellectual series of conversations to learn from each other and connect at a meaningful level. Having said that I suspect you could make an intelligent argument for any order. I would think though that boredom is the biggest thief of passion and easiest to keep at bay with an intellectually compatible partner. If two people are intellectually connected but not emotionally sensitive to each other’s feelings I do think that no amount of knowledge can make the relationship last? Yes that makes sense. I guess My initial thought is that two people who express themselves emotionally may struggle and two who are quite different may find it easier to support each other. But to your point emotionally connected doesn’t mean emotionally identical. I do think that someone who shares intellectual interests makes for better communication. Even so, I agree that being of the same mind but lacking emotional empathy would be a problem. Yes i do not think emotionally identical is possible unless people are conjoined twins or connected in some higher way. Sometimes when two people are intellectually matched they have a thing about outsmarting one another. There will never be a boring conversation but you must admit that conflicts are not too far away? To me a combination of hot and cold or a perfect mix of coffee and cream makes for a better and interesting situation. No boring moments too just complementing each other. I admire and enjoy talking to smart people specially when they emphatize with me that I cannot possibly know everything but don’t look down and think it’s a waste of time to chat with someone not as smart lol. Emotionally connected people have this kind of thing. An acceptance and sensitivity. That makes sense. In my experience someone who is emotionally sensitive seems to thrive when their partner is less emotional. However there is still an acceptance and sensitivity as you suggest. Just not the way I was looking at it. On the intellectual, to me, it's not a matter of who is "smarter". I believe that life experience is the best education, but when I first answered this I was thinking that if I have something in common intellectually, those conversations are much easier. I have coached college athletes for over 30 years and I love the conversations and I learn from it. However, my intellectual experience is not greater, but it's different. As are my frames of reference. Even if I am attracted physically, sensitive and accepting emotionally and on the same page spiritually, I wouldn't be optimistic about a lifetime partnership with them. It's not the age difference (or at least not just the age difference), it's the intellectual difference based on experience and frame of reference. When with someone who shares that intellectual level with me, I believe the choice to love them that needs to be made daily, would be easier to make. Very clear and nicely written  I doThink that now we mean the same thing 
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