Why is it hard to date after separation/divorce??? Can someone answer that??

I would say the feeling of hurt still lingers.

If you find it hard, then you are not ready to date.

I don't have a problem with the actual dating part the hard part is to many douches I just feel like I'm in a alien dating world of fake...After being married for a long time it's so hard to find someone you click with who is honest

Then you are trying too hard. Just let it happen when it wants to happen. I've felt like you do but I gave up trying and decided it will happen when I least expect it.

Besides, the fakes will eventually dry up and the honest ones will remain.

oh I know how an alien feel. Give it time to get acclimatized to the new dating world. Don't just date any douche bag... pick the best of them all. lol jk. Be patient. Soon you would smell a douche bag for miles away.

Thanks

I'm learning how to smell them already ever since about a month ago when I decided to dip my toes first in the dating scene after almost 2yrs of being alone lol.. thanks though for your advice.

its due to one was indulge with the partner not only physically but mentally too and he/ she fears for the new relation for the same

Well somes keep thinking about their past what they have been through.is very hard to put does aside you have to forcus on the present.love come slow and it goes so fast not all who says that I love you mean it no everyone can be with you when the sun is shining but it take a hero to be with you when it's raining believe it

I agree

You need to let go of all hurts and open your heart to new things.
Sometimes, the feeling of losing again keep one from opening up and even when the right person is coming, you feel unsecured and shuts the fore right behind.
Let go and try something new.
Who knows!

I m happy. coz i know how to make myself happy.

your mind is not ready yet to mingle.. better give some time and put yourself number one

I suggest that this is less because the world has changed, than because it hasn't. But you have. Before you were married, you didn't as easily RECOGNIZE the people with "defects." Your experience has made it easier to see things, such as that people with "snappy lines," aren't so much clever or imaginative,as they are manipulative and selfish. That kind of thing. And of course, the further along in life you go, the more it's true that the reason someone IS available, is the same reason why there are certain kinds of merchandise on the shelf after a huge sale: they aren't all that wonderful.

The main thing you need after a long marriage or other committed relationship, is patience.

Thanks I did not know about the other ways of meeting people on line your advice is truly appreciated

True words of wisdom thank you and yes I'm taking it one day at a time.. patience is most definitely a virtue

As well as the other comments I think you can lose a bit of confidence in yourself.

There’s also the once bitten twice shy feeling.

Learn to love yourself again and remember this, one day you’ll be the only girl in the world to the right person.

That's it's hard for me was married 24 yrs then pow she's gone but hard to get back to dating