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How can a guy let a lady know he likes her in a subtle manner?
How does a guy know when a lady is trying to let him know in a sublt manner that she likes him? I have no idea on how to flirt, and I can't really tell when a lady is trying to flirt with me. I usually just come out and tell her. I do better when she just comes out and tells me. |
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Well, I guess you could just have a basic conversation with her for starters. As a female, I never have a clue if a man likes me. He'd have to slap me up side my head with a 2 x 4.
 Just kidding. Seriously, it seems to be hard for some of us men and women, equally.
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Yeah, I don't flirt, have no idea on how to. I can't really pick up on flirting either. That's why I like to be upfront and foward (with class and respect of course) when I like a woman, but sometimes I feel that it might be better if I "told" her that I liked her in a subtle manner and see how it goes, but I have no idea on how to be subtle or pick up on it.
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I, too, have a hard time telling. I think it is better to be up front, but tactfully done of course.
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ok here is how you be subtle......
walk up and subtly grab her a$$, and say do you want to come back to my place baby |
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Thanks tony I'll try that sometime... with your mom
j/k
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damn you better watch out... I tried that with her and she kept me in bed for 3 days
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we could tag team her though if you want
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Edited by
ChiefPUA
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Fri 11/30/07 03:22 AM
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Let me elaborate on my style of flirting.
The purpose of flirting is to play around with and build sexual tension between the two people. You are NOT going to spark sexual tension by communicating a definite interest. Letting someone know that they HAVE YOU is a surefire way to kill any tension. Here, you may find this helpful. I posted this in another thread: ...the concept of hard-to-get is actually pretty important, and if you don't practice it, it's probably the primary reason that you are here on a dating site. I'm talking to both guys and girls here, and I don't mean any of that in any offensive manner, by the way. People want what they can't have. Playing hard-to-get increases DESIRE in the other party involved and mainly consists of teasing. Speaking from a Freudian perspective, let's take the assumption that every stage of the courtship process relates to sex. What makes sex the MOST pleasurable? What can you do during sex that gives women multiple orgasms? That's right, it's TEASING. Statistics show that if you spend at least 21 minutes in foreplay, 93% of women will experience an orgasm during the intercourse that follows. What does foreplay do? It TEASES the sexual organs and builds ANTICIPATION. That's what playing hard-to-get does. It teases and builds anticipation, making the whole flirting experience more fun for those "in the know." One very common way to tease in playing hard-to-get is sending mixed signals. Another way is basically doing the same thing except using touch and proximity. There's so much to play with here! Happy hunting, -Chief Here's another little tidbit I posted in another thread: Flirting is more of an emotional state than a technical definition. The concept can be as ambiguous as love. I don't agree that flirting is defined by the goal of dating/sex. It CAN be, but not necessarily. With that said, here's my attempt at a definition. I think flirting is any form of communication, either direct or subcommunicated, that relates to - or addresses - ATTRACTION between the two parties involved. Compliments are neutral when it comes to attraction. I said that flirting can involve addressing the attraction between the 2 parties involved. I also said that communicating interest kills tension. These statements are not contradictory because of the little-known dynamics of attraction. Attraction is not the same thing as interest. It is something created naturally through things like sexual tension. |
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Edited by
thatplayer89
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Fri 11/30/07 03:11 PM
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can we get some experience i dont wanna hear material. i wanna hear your experience pua
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Why do you want to be subtle if the direct approach has worked for you before?
Being subtle could lose the girl. |
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when i flirt with a woman i touch her playfully. like if she did something worng i would lightly punch her arm. or a simple complement like guess what... your hot. its not that hard to flirt as long as she smile you doing good
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can we get some experience i dont wanna hear material. i wanna hear your experience pua well no wonder I don't get full credit on my essays - I don't provide enough evidence haha When I flirt with girls, it's all about subcommunication, or second level communication, whatever you wanna call it. Watch any old black and white movie where two people are flirting for the best examples. I tease (neg) her so she doesn't become sexually threatened or whatever, and it also communicates that i'm a male who "gets it" If she teases me back, IT'S ON. It becomes a fun little sparring match that builds sexual tension. If she doesn't, I just pile on the teasing until her face is all red and flushed from laughing and blushing. The great thing here is that I can tease her even more for laughing and blushing so much I'm constantly communicating a POTENTIAL interest but I pull back after every time I push. This is a great form of teasing. For example I can tell her, "You are beautiful...but beauty is common nowadays. What are three things about your personality that would make me want to get to know you better?" The entire time I feel confident about myself (its very important to have confidence when flirting...and living) and I know EXACTLY what's going on in every step of the interaction. As for playful touching, that's a VERY important aspect that many people forget to do. I start out lightly by touching her shoulder when I'm talking to her and escalate from there. |
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