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Topic: Looking at the competition
Easttowest72 Joined Tue 04/24/18 Posts: 2169	Tue 06/26/18 08:51 PM
I used to help a male friend of mine get dates. So I got to see my competition using his profile. It's amazing who answers emails and who doesn't.

Charles1962150 Joined Tue 03/13/12 Posts: 3403	Thu 06/28/18 02:59 AM
You don't have to compete with anyone. Real men will not go by looks. They will try to see your character. A real man will try to see how beautiful you are on the inside. I've been with what I thought was good looking women. And I've been with not so good looking women. I found over the years that the ones that I gravitate towards the most are the talkative, friendly, warm-hearted type. The cold-hearted, hateful, loud, pushy domineering type. The "I look good and I know it type. And you better know it too. Been there and done that. Doesn't interest me. You don't have to compete. Just be you. Let that inner light shine for everyone to see. And they will come.

scepticalsoulmate Joined Wed 08/24/16 Posts: 9737	Thu 06/28/18 03:32 AM
You don't have to compete with anyone. Real men will not go by looks. They will try to see your character. A real man will try to see how beautiful you are on the inside. I've been with what I thought was good looking women. And I've been with not so good looking women. I found over the years that the ones that I gravitate towards the most are the talkative, friendly, warm-hearted type. The cold-hearted, hateful, loud, pushy domineering type. The "I look good and I know it type. And you better know it too. Been there and done that. Doesn't interest me. You don't have to compete. Just be you. Let that inner light shine for everyone to see. And they will come. This

eric22t Joined Wed 08/13/14 Posts: 27928	Thu 06/28/18 03:37 AM
I think to many people are trying to compete. A flower doesn't look around the garden and think am I prettier. No it just blooms along with the others. Females should always lift each other up. a pic of that might get censored here

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15022	Sat 11/24/18 12:14 PM
Never have your profile picture taken with a friend. especially if she's better looking than you, guy's get disappointed easily

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15022	Sat 11/24/18 12:16 PM
The topic reminds me of a friend's ex-wife talking about her and her girlfriends' experience at a nightclub--she said, "There were too many girls there, so we left."

Mike6615 Joined Sun 09/18/16 Posts: 1525	Sat 11/24/18 01:06 PM Edited by Mike6615 on Sat 11/24/18 01:08 PM
Can i view the girls that are members? I want to see what the competition looks like. Thank you Well, you are going about it the right way. Every Thursday the women of Mingle hold a open competition, it is the best way to edge the competition. The categories are the following Bathing suit Short black dress Cleavage presentation walking 150 feet in heels Lasagna cooking sports team knowledge How to give up the T.V. remote controller properly Of course physical fitness is important, so the following are also gradable tasks The Javelin throw Running the hurdles Synchronized swimming Basketball dunking Good luck... us men are watching For what it's worth--Do remember that every step Fred did, Ginger had to do backwards...and in heels.

JustBeHonest Joined Sat 10/06/18 Posts: 2691	Sat 11/24/18 01:08 PM
Compete, never! Everyone is looking for different things and beauty is different in each persons eyes.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Sat 11/24/18 01:24 PM
Compete, never! Everyone is looking for different things... It's true. I'm looking for a left handed aardvark. I bet no one else here is looking for one.

MsLeeHM Joined Sun 03/25/18 Posts: 190	Sat 11/24/18 02:53 PM
I found it helpful to look at their profiles to get an idea of what would make my stand out. Doesn’t seem to matter. Very few fall into what I am looking for

FredoniaDaydreamer Joined Sat 09/24/16 Posts: 101	Tue 11/27/18 05:44 PM
It doesn't matter what other women are writing or look like. I believe in being yourself and being honest - or else you will not find what you are truly looking for. If they cannot accept you for being yourself, you are better off and it wasn't meant to be.

catinidaho Joined Fri 10/24/14 Posts: 10865	Tue 11/27/18 05:55 PM
Well said, Fredonia.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15022	Tue 11/27/18 05:58 PM
I agree Fredonia !

MsLeeHM Joined Sun 03/25/18 Posts: 190	Tue 11/27/18 07:34 PM
It doesn't matter what other women are writing or look like. I believe in being yourself and being honest - or else you will not find what you are truly looking for. If they cannot accept you for being yourself, you are better off and it wasn't meant to be. I totally agree but writing my profile was tough. It didn’t help that some men were professing a deep abiding love for what I said. Someone said a lot of women said, “Hi”. Then I read the women’s profiles and saw some pretty smart women here. So I wrote what was authentically me. Either they get it or they don’t. I don’t need the ones that don’t.

Toodygirl5 Joined Fri 10/26/12 Posts: 15022	Tue 11/27/18 08:04 PM Edited by Toodygirl5 on Tue 11/27/18 08:06 PM
Many men don't read Profiles and a woman better not email them without Her having a Photo. Some men want full length photos before a meet. Dating sites are the Worst for men being Visual. I get dozens of views on this site. I delete daily.

FredoniaDaydreamer Joined Sat 09/24/16 Posts: 101	Tue 11/27/18 08:47 PM
That a girl, Lee! I think the right man just hasn't read your profile yet! There's a broad spectrum of people on here. Please follow your intuition, it won't steer you wrong. In the meantime, all of us women may want to check out entering that Thursday night competition?? I hear the men of Mingle hold a similar one on Friday nights!!!!