hallo everyone (waves) i am the ***kin new guy so be gentle . i am askin for a wee bitty help understanding ! met a nice girly at the start of the year we pass each other to an from work i plucked up the courage and spoke to her which resulted in going for a drink which resulted in the beginings of a cool realationship to the point 6months later lying next to each other one night i am asked "do you think of me as your girlfriend" to hear this was a relief up to this i was still unsure as to where we were going so i said of course i do she thought of me as her fella YAY ! that was friday she went out with her mates on the sat nite i never saw her till tues mornin an i got the cold shoulder we usually pass each other to an from work and for that whole week i never saw her once friday night she turns up at my door all teary telling me she dont want no more to do with me ! if i had beahaved like an arse i could understand but i had beahaved like a gentleman i never got no real reason as to why !!! i dont want sympathy just to understand surley someone has been through this .

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Did you ask Her why?

6 months? That sounds like a typical weekend to me.
Advice? Drink with friends. Shoot something. Go shopping for a new outfit and shoes. Whatever fits your lifestyle.

It's tough, but she at least let you know now instead of later when she could legally clean your clock.

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As much as you would like advise from US, I think you need to find out from her, she is the one that ended it with you. We can only speculate what's going on in her HEAD

right???

I wish you luck!!!

cheers all ! i just needed to hear other views on the situation i know its hard for others to judge on such a situation for you know not all the facts ! i do realise i cant make her want to be with me and i am glad she told me now rather than later it just seems awffy weird to me an thought youse folks out there might be able to shed some light on the subject its the not understanding that bothers me . anyhoo thanks for the response people i may speak to you all again on a brighter note

well its pretty hard to tell with the limited information you provided, but i'll tell u about a common scenario you might be able to relate to.

Man and woman are casually dating. Man is being himself.
Man and woman begin an official relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. Man get excited but starts feeling a fear of losing her. Because he does not want to lose her at this point, he consciously CHANGES himself to become nicer, more of a gentlemen, etc, because he thinks that will impress the girlfriend. Woman realizes that her man has CHANGED and isn't the man he used to be anymore. Woman realizes she liked/loved the man for who he was before and also realizes that she does NOT like/love the man he changed into. She dumps him.

cheers chief !i suppose i will never realy know , it would be braw if everyone would be honest in these sort of situations your words do make sense to me though ta G .