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This is the first time I ask 4 advise...
I've seen how ya'll give advise to each other's. & I really need some help...any & all help will be really apreciated... So here's my problem... My wife left me the day after "father's day" this year... (I knew she was gonna leave, but I didn't know when) That sunday nigth, I went to work, {I work nites, 6 to 6}, when I got home the next morning, she was gone... I call her sister's to see if they knew anything about her, & my li'l daugther...they said no... A couple of weeks later she call me, & said that they were fine... To make this long story short... 3 months ago, I started dating this girl, everything is going fine between me & her... She knows everything about me & my x... But last week, my x told me that she wants to come back, if I let her & my daugther stay, in one of the extra rooms on the house, to live like roommates... I don't know what to do, for my li'l daughter I'll do anything to have her close to me, but I don't know how to tell my "girlfriend", I dont know how she's gonna react... I'm afraid if I tell her about this, our relationship is gonna end, & I really care about her... Any of ya'll ever been thru something like this..? I really need some advise... |
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I spent 2 months living with my ex and kida when we were separated as roomates, and It did NOT work, way to much tension!!!
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okay....this is a tough situation and all i can say is if she cares about you as much as you care about her she will understand....are you and your wife divorced??? this seems to be a big problem with alot of men lately and is not very nice to do to someone....you need to make sure your girlfriend is aware if you are or are not married anymore and if you are married theres really nothing you can do about your wife moving back in with you...my advice is if your daughters with her you need to do the right thing by your daughter....if its too big of an ordeal for you then maybe if financially capable rent them a place close by....this is a tough one...hope my words help some
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Ive never been thru anything like that, but your wife left you first, I would file for divorce, and visitation for my lil girl.that way she can not refuse to let you see her.Dont stoop to you wifes lowness if you do she will just hurt you all over again and using your daughter to hurt you with....
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You need to talk to a lawyer. You have rights to your daughter (maybe...depends on circumstances), and a lawyer is better equipped to handle this situation.
Good luck to you! |
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Edited by
Nickinolosers
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Wed 11/28/07 07:27 AM
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She left, her choice
Let a lawyer handle the situation with your daughter In my experience, if she wants to move back in then she wants something more |
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What I would do: If you're not divorced yet, at least file a Marital Separation Agreement (MSA). Get this stuff legal and on paper. Define custody schedules, living arrangements in the MSA.
Otherwise, the house is hers too, and you can't stop her from moving back in. I do feel for ya. I don't know any details. I am not a lawyer. This is not legal advice. |
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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Is that a disclaimer? 
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yes
You never know... 
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 Boy do you ever need help.I don't know if there is any in this case.Even if the lady your dating isThe best person.It will be realy hard to deal with.Best of luck.Would hate to be in your shoes.Hope all works out!!
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k i'm going to try and not go OFF...kiss the g/f goodbye, tell x to kya and do what is best for your daughter...ie: devote yourself to her
  
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I lived with my ex as roommates for about 4 years before we got divorced
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Divorce the "wife". (I'm twice divorced, myself.) Life's too short to play other peoples games. If you get along fine with the woman you're now dating, she will certainly understand that you estranged wife is playing games. Some people don't get it when they are told "you can't have your cake and eat it too". It has to be shown to them. She chose to leave, not you. It's not good for your daughter for her mother to play games, period.
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Thank you all,4 taking the time 2 answer...
I really apreciate that... I'm going to spend this weekend with my "girlfriend", & I'm gonna have 2 let her know what's going on... I know she's gonna get mad, & it will probably be the last time I spent some time with her...but like I said... 4 my li'l girl, I'll do anything... Thank you all again, ya'll been very helpful... Thank You....... |
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Skkorpio you don't deserve this grief. Protect yourself and your daughter. She should not use a child as a weapon. If you absolutely DO NOT trust your ex johnna's advice with an msa agreement is your best option. A fathers rights attourney will help also. Best of luck.
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No way should you let her come back, I know it might seem like a big responsibility but maybe its time to step up and keep your yourself, it will be hard but since you have a supportive girlfriend she will help. Your ex simply wants the freedom to live somewhere for free basically and believe me she has no intentions of the two of you just being roomates
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