okay people have many fears or things they have became scared of over time etc.

There is an old saying " The only thing to fear is fear it self ".

Well so how does one get over a big fear that happened to one self like nearly four years ago, the biggest problem is the fear has almost taken over my life in one way or another. Which sucks because an accident I was in wasn't really at all my fault even though in this day in age if you where young you get blamied for nearly every thing... which is pretty much what happened to me, and I rather not say much more.

But I am thinking, hoping, praying that I can get over my fear next year, if not sooner.

So how does one get over a fear like driving again. Or Anything else for that matter rather or not this is a fear of driving etc.

OMG i went through exactly wat u did, i had my accident in FEBRUARY u can see for urself david6931@hotmail.com at myspace ill tell u look at my car fisrt

realize that you were into a crash it happened and be grateful that you survived. I too was in a bad car crash, and had a couple flash backs. It helps to realize that fear only sets you back in life, it allows you to not do somthing you want to do, becasue of a bad experience. I have always been taught to learn from them and try try again. This has helped me

Talk to god, and pray

Yeah. And I get that. I want to over come this fear of being in and auto accident but everytime I'm in a car with my dad which drives kinda crazy as it is, brings back flashbacks. In fact my doctor told me I should talk to some one but I am not sure if that would help me out or not.

Almost reminds me of being in a war or army or something with having awful flashbacks such as those people tent to have. Maybe I'm over reacting or something.

Wow! GREAT QUESTION!

This goes back to no simple explination. There are over 6 billion people in the world, therefore you can sometimes get a LOT of different opinions.

But in the case of "fear", that depends solely on the individual. Different people fear different things and they can overcome those by different methods. Not one specific way may work for everyone.

So the answer you seek is a very complex one. You also have to take into account, a "healthy fear" is a good thing. Just like driving, you should have at least a "respect" if not a "healthy fear" that makes you aware that you could be hurt or someone else can be hurt if you drive unsafely, etc. You know you are in cntrol of a lethal item if used in a bad or negligent way.

Anything past that, you have to define for yourself, "why" you have the fear..and think it out. many times "fear" stems from being things "unknown". but since you have had a bad experience already, you have to come to terms with that...and deal with it that way.

Wish i could be more specific, but I don;t know you and all the details. I hope this give a little light on what you are feeling.

just kee ur eyes open when ur in the passengers seat, i kow i konw when i had my accident i knew i was going to survive cus i wouldnt let my self die , but i got hurt , after that i would start shaking alot when people would drive and i had to close my eyes but just take it step by step, it comes bakc really fast trust me just dont worry dont blame urself for anything , after my accident i went back home 2 months later and i drove my moms car around and i got back into driving now im still a little scared from time to time but it gets easier every time

Talking to someone, hmmm. I have always figured that i know myself better than anyone else you know. Maybe you need to hit the problem head on, are you running from the issue? Somtimes it requires you to get into the car, and maybe reinact your car accident, not saying actually get into an accident. But live it again somtimes its not as fearful as we think

I remember your post about religion earlier, during my accident is when i started to "believe in God", i should have died. I walked away with 2 scratches

Well what doesn't help is I have an Anxiety disorder. which might add to the fire that has already been set. So although I just deal with my anxiety because I've tired meds in the pass and noting worked for me but just dealing with it etc. I am guessing this doesn't help me out much either.

gdr441 I think that's great your able to do that much. I have not drove not once in four years since the accident, now it's not that I do not want to or anything like that but it's more unless I need some help in reinsurness in order to get back behind the wheel again but the crazy part is my mom or anybody else is to busy or do not have there cars because some one else is always using them.

So I guess in order to face this fear I guess I will have to sooner or later just teach my self again once I have the extra cash for another car, hopefully some time next year or so. Don't know.

i konw wat u mean after that i was thanking god, but then i thougth to myself what if it was just coinsidence, because the year before my accident i had told my mom i didnt want a newe car, and that i would drive my old one to miami for college, she said no and bought me a new one and i had told her wat if i get into a horrible accident and february 2007 wat do u konw it happend

Maybe I am running away from the fear of the unknow, then again I am unsure any more.

The bible talks about word are very powerful when spoken... Granted you survived, but maybe the reason for this accident goes much deeper than surviving. WE will never know the true intentions god has until we die, we can only assume "maybe this is it".

its kinda like thinking the positive about everything that i like so much. I got into and accident but at least it wasnt as worse as it could have been, that kinda thing.

What do you think your problem is with the accident then?

i think of it sometimes ass god putting me into check , and telling me im not invincible and that i can die, cus sometimes i would think i was invincible

I may have walked away with zero scratches, but one mark that reminds me every day. Since I needed to have neck surgery a year or more after my accident.

So I guess the fear or reminder is the mark on my neck from the sugery, surely it isn't that viewable to most but to me because I know it's there for the most part.

To be honest I have no idea, I wish I did know what my problem was with the accident other then I nearly died but thank god I did not.

i thought i had broken ribs after mine, and when teh glass shattered in my face luckily n sars but i did get one on my wrist, and i got whiplash