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On a lighter note, if this helps, listen on YouTube to "Honey, I'm Home" by Shania Twain (1998)
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21 Keys to a Happy Life ~ Source Unknown http://www.appleseeds.org/21%20Keys.htm Compliment three people everyday. Watch a sunrise. Be the first to say "Hello." Live beneath your means. Treat everyone as you want to be treated. Never give up on anybody; miracles happen. Forget the Jones’s. Remember someone’s name. Pray not for things, but for wisdom and courage. Be tough-minded, but tender hearted. Be kinder than you have to be. Don’t forget that a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Keep your promises. Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don’t feel it. Remember that overnight success usually takes 15 years. Leave everything better than you found it. Remember that winners do what losers don’t want to do. When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten everyone’s day. Don’t rain on other people’s parades. Don’t waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them. Keep some things to yourself and don’t promote havoc by backstabbing people you love. Edit to add the source index (lots of good stuff there) http://www.appleseeds.org/spec-idx.htm#Motivation I love this. I had read it long ago. I remember years ago when I first started in recovery with 12 step programs, AA, CoDa, ACOA, I used to write out positive affirmations and post them on the walls around the house. I would do the same with inspiring poems and quotes. "Don't Quit" and the "Serenity Prayer" were a couple of them. About ten years ago, I wrote a list of "Just for Today" empowerment statements and posted them on the bathroom mirror to read daily. I have the next couple days off, time to put up some daily reminders. |
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Everybody has their up and down days. But if you are experiencing wide mood swings with little or no apparent cause, seek professional help. Rose crystals, hugs, knowing pats and hand holdings are nice gestures, but they are not going to help you overcome the root of the problem. Thanks motown, there's a lot of wisdom to what you say. Those things...crystals, hugs, hand holding, etc.., can act like bandaids or quick fixes but if you don't know the root of the problem, it's only a temporary fix. Like having a wound, if you simple cover it up and don't clean it, it becomes infected. I've spent a lot of my adult life in recovery programs and seeking professional help. At one time, several years ago, I got fired as a client. The therapist told me I needed to "recover" from "recovery" and start living...she basically cut those aprons strings and forced me to get out there and deal with life on life's terms, lol. My struggle isn't so much getting to the root of the problem, I'm pretty insightful...it's more keeping up with the things I know work for me in order to have a healthy mind, body, and spirit. And one of my biggest struggles when I'm feeling emotional, is not to isolate and also tell someone I need a hug! |
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Aww Pisces, you have had a bad day! !! I'm not really into the spiritual things so I'm not going to say stand on one leg facing East while eating a pancake humming gently! I'm sure most people are not not aware of just how many rude people are out there but also I'm sure that many people are not aware of when they are being rude! Now as for me, I'd just tell them and if they don't like it then they can swivel But you have to pander to these arrogant people due to work. Just give them the glazed over look and agree, walk away and think really? Americans are so rude, I'm not coming here again 
That was a little joke! Just think to yourself that things are not the bad, Just look around at the things that are going on around us! 
And as for blondey lowering the tone maybe she is right, the people may be having more downs than ups 
Well I really wanted to see you stand on one leg facing the East while eating a pancake! You don't need to be spiritual for that, why can't you just do it for a friend 
And did you forget that I work at a huge resort? Some of those guests are European! :)) Okay, kidding aside, thanks mikey...things aren't as bad as they sometimes appear. I appreciate you for your kindness and cheerful support.
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Sat 06/17/17 06:55 PM
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Hello Pisces   I understand how you feel as I have been experiencing some low moments too with my work colleagues. Just concentrate on your work and show them your best performance and results. Some may envy you still and others will eventually respect you. Continue to just be you. It's okay to be emotional, every individual have different behaviors and different ways of dealing with situations. Crying is not a weakness but a sign of strength. You are brave enough to show people your weakness, you are not afraid or ashamed to admit to yourself that you have vulnerable moments. I read your comments all the time, you are a deep person and I truly admire your kindness, understanding, compassion and wisdom. Continue to openly express your feelings and thoughts here in forum or with whoever you feel comfortable sharing it. Yesterday I was looking for the thread where I could put an article about deep and shallow people....now I found a place to post it here , I hope this could help you understand yourself better as well as give others some thoughts to ponder on https://www.learning-mind.com/shallow-people/
I hope you'll read it and praise yourself for being deep. Give yourself a hug , don't let anyone ruin your day:) I love rose quartz, I used to believe that when you have it with you always , it calms your spirit and attracts love. Be happy you have a good spiritual friend there with you  be grateful for the people who surrounds you with love and who truly understand your deep nature.   
Dolphin, I very much like all that you said. Thank you for your loving support. I have read a lot of your posts as well and I admire your positive outlook on life, and your ability to shed light on what other's see as darkness. It's a funny thing about work. A couple weeks ago I was speaking with my boss. One of my struggles, that keeps me from qualifying for Supervisor or Management, is my challenge to remain professional when I am having an extremely emotional day. I have come a long ways over the last two years, yet still have a ways to go. I told him I wanted to go to the Supervisor Training Sessions, even though I'm not one, so I can learn the tools to maintain professionalism. He's inquiring about it and thinks it will be a good idea. Plus there are books in the office that I can read, just haven't yet. So what's funny about it is that it's kind of like praying. If you pray for patience, God gives you an opportunity to practice patience. Well, I've been wanting to improve my ability to maintain professionalism when I'm in one of my emotional states...I guess God was giving me the opportunity to do just that! And I am proud to say, that I improved. I didn't go home, I wasn't rude to my co-workers...well, one I chased out of the office so I could cry, but I at least told him I was having "a moment" and it wasn't personal, . I'm at about a 75% success rate now of maintaining professionalism, where two years ago, it was about 10%, and that's being generous!
If I follow through with training, either in the sessions, or on my own, I could be eligible within the next year. 
Thank you for the article, I will read it tonight. And thank you again for your loving support
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Me again
Been sitting in the garden since 5.30 am, lovely day. Going to work soon, how about if you have a friend at work maybe just going for a drink or coffee somewhere. just a break from the norm. You have lots of friends on here but it's not the same as real life friends, no offence to the one's on here. People to easily have their lives taken over by virtual friends, all you hear is parents telling kids to make friends and go out. Nothing can replace physical communication and interaction. Just getting away from this and taking in the real world can make a difference. Hope you are better today
Hi you again 
You're so right mikey. This is pretty much my only source of socializing and entertainment. I was thinking just the other day about going to the library to see if there are any weekly clubs I could get involved with. I need to meet like minded people in my area. That is a huge challenge for where I live, but I know they are out there some where, I just need to explore a little more. Hmmm, I like how I just said that...explore...love adventures, so this could be fun! Thank you my dear friend
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i hope things got better dear i can totally relate to you. when the same things happen i just wait it out and have a mindset of "all these shall pass". tomorrow always brings a new day take care dear
In the 12 Step program, they have a similar expression..."This too shall pass". I haven't been to meetings in quite awhile...maybe that's part of the problem. But I will have to remember to chant that throughout the day the next time I have an emotional day.
Over all, even though I broke down again, I would say things got better. Surprisingly, the girl who I tend to bump heads with, was the one who switched days off with me even though she had plans. And when I went into the office at the end of the day ranting, she said was abrupt and I started sobbing. Instead of arguing with me, she put her arms around me and held me while I sobbed. She told me to stop crying and breathe, but her compassion and generosity caused me to think differently towards her and I think we both understand each other a little better. We talked for a bit and it was nice. Thank you my dear friend for you support
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Pisces even though you had a crappy day I'm glad your boss didn't send you home right away. I have days like that too. The positive thing is you don't let it keep you down. I hope you're feeling better. Send you love and hugs.
Thank you ana, I'm glad too that I didn't get sent home or insist on going home. The last couple months, I did go home if I was emotional, and it only made me feel more defeated. The last two days were very empowering for me. It's great to have a boss who has faith that you can do something, even if you don't. They push me meet my potential, but in a gently caring way. I am feeling better, thanks again. Hugs to you!
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I wish I was poetic...I could jot down some words and make things right again. Sometimes a good cry is needed to give us perspective. The rain does stop eventually and the sun will shine.
Without rain and sun the flowers don't bloom. Thank you Sno, I appreciate your kindness and emotional support. That in itself is poetic because it comes from the heart. I agree about a good cry is sometimes what we need. I just so wished that good cry would have waited until I got home, lol. Not really. That's what got me on this roller coaster of emotions to begin with, trying to wait for the opportune moment to be able to cry...a little silly when you think about it. I like how you put that..."Without rain and sun the flowers don't bloom", very true!
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Many go through those same emotions just some you never know they keep it inside thinking it is the right thing to do.. If this is something that has just started lately. Look at eating habits sleeping habits as well go get a check up.. Women and our hormones lawd help us at times... Not sure if this was brought up or even considered but Menopause if you have gone through it already, at times it still blows our hormones out of the water it seems.. If you have not yet then have that checked it does make the hormones go crazy and cause emotional ups and downs.... Some women have extreme mood swings where others only have mild ones... As many have said letting out your emotions is good for the soul. Ever realized after you have had a good cry how at times you feel as if a weight has lifted? It is due to you have finally realized no matter what you do or how hard you try solving all the problems will not always end the way we want them too... Just do the best you can...and let faith jump in.... Then some days it feels like everything is going wrong had one about a week ago what could go wrong went wrong.. Only thing was I sat back wrote it down and posted it on facebook for a good laugh for really in the end it was all comical... Stress alone can bring on days like that as well... at times just getting away from the situation even for a few minutes can help the soul and mind.... Thank you TxsGal, what you said makes a lot of sense to me and really hits close to home. I talked to my Director about post-menopause, I wasn't sure if you still cycle, although that's what this feels like. I was diagnosed years ago with LAPD...Late Luteral Phase Dysphoric Disorder. It's a hormonal imbalance that mimics rapid cycle bi-polar. I studied it in depth and adjusted my diet accordingly. That, along with the other tools I used to acquire balance of the mind, body, and spirit, I did quite well. Now that I'm postmenopausal, it's more difficult to know when I'm cycling hormonally. Today I decided I need to keep a journal so I can keep track of my mood shifts and see the pattern. I need to research it as well. Aside from that, I agree with what you said about crying being good for the soul. And I used to write, something that always worked well for me. I used to do a lot of things that worked well for me. I'm good at discovering what it is that I need. I'm good at getting myself to the point where I have balance in my mind, body, and spirit. My difficulty lies in maintaining that balance. Something I have struggled with in the past when I was in relationships, and now apparently with a full time job that consists of 11 to 12 hour days. I let up on doing the things I need to do, and find myself back to square one. I see other women who appear to juggle all they have in life...work, children, significant other, and still manage to take care of themselves. I tend to leave self out while attending to everyone and everything else. It's silly because I know that when I do that, I'm actually no good to others because I get crazy, overwhelmed, and spiritually sick. I guess the challenge is to work more on healthier boundaries and stick to the things that work...regardless of who or what is in my life. |
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Edited by
Piscesmoon02
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Sat 06/17/17 08:34 PM
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Simply said, Yes. Even as a male, I've had those days of "the Funk" as Tom4U called it. I feel for ya Pisces, and hope today has been a better day for you.
Thanks Scoob It has been a better day!
What are some of the things you do Scoob, to get out of "the funk"? |
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Dear PM, Be kind to yourself You are amazing, gentle, sweet and generous. Remember, God loves you and i do too. Hugs and Happy thoughts your way
I love you too lu! Hugs and Happy thoughts you way also.
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I hope today is a good day for you, pisces.
... virtual hugs from cyber friends if they come from the heart can still lift the spirit and make a friend feel better... it's the thought that counts. (((((((pisces)))))))
I totally felt that hug
Today was better, thanks! Still emotional, but it was more therapeutic. Sometimes I forget we're online rosie, it feels like we are in the same room. In a way it's like that expression, "together in spirit". Thank you rosie for encouraging me to start this thread. And thank you for being my friend.
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On a lighter note, if this helps, listen on YouTube to "Honey, I'm Home" by Shania Twain (1998) Perfect song for me Mike, just missing one thing....The honey to rub my feet when I get home. 
Thanks Mike, I enjoyed listening to it and it really did help!
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On a lighter note, if this helps, listen on YouTube to "Honey, I'm Home" by Shania Twain (1998) Perfect song for me Mike, just missing one thing....The honey to rub my feet when I get home.
Thanks Mike, I enjoyed listening to it and it really did help!
Sounds like Mike needs to visit and rub your feet... 
Hope your days are better my friend. |
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On a lighter note, if this helps, listen on YouTube to "Honey, I'm Home" by Shania Twain (1998) Perfect song for me Mike, just missing one thing....The honey to rub my feet when I get home.
Thanks Mike, I enjoyed listening to it and it really did help!
Sounds like Mike needs to visit and rub your feet...
Hope your days are better my friend.  Nice of you to volunteer another man to do the job....silly man!
My day was better, thanks!
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Edited by
Pepinofruit
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Sat 06/17/17 11:07 PM
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I have a hard time admitting this, I would much rather be cheerful and post more positive topics. But I really did have one of those days where I would have rather left work and hid out in my room to have a good cry...over God knows what, because it's nothing in particular, just feeling emotional and vulnerable. Normally I wouldn't put myself "out there" if I'm feeling emotional and vulnerable, but my dear wonderful friend rosie suggested it, so I decided to just do it. It all started way before work, probably due to lack of sleep, but the trigger for my emotional meltdown was a couple of nasty guests and one of my co-workers not agreeing with me about something. I maintained my dignity and went to the office. The Director of my department was there, she's very spiritual and into energy healing kind of stuff. When I'm around her, I can't act like everything's okay...and sure enough, I couldn't this time either. I ended up starting to cry and a whole lot of bottled up thoughts and feelings came flooding out. Instead of letting me go home, she took me for a golf cart ride around the island. We visited the marina, watered the golf cart, went to a little beach and just sat there until I was able to ground myself. She gave me a Rose Quartz to carry with me throughout the day. I told her I wanted to go home, but needed to stay. I was given the option of leaving if I needed to but after an hour, not sooner. I made it through the day and left at the usual time, it gave me more of a feeling of empowerment than the defeated feeling I would have had if I left. I guess I'm rambling and don't know if this makes any sense. I guess I just needed to write about it because sometimes I feel all alone in the world, in the sense that, I, at times have an extremely emotional day for no specific reason other than just being tired, and maybe needing some tender loving care, or a hug. Anyone else ever feel this way? Or have any of you ever just had a sucky day? Edited for typos ********************************************************** Life is good ....TRUST ME 
10% is what life throws at you, the other 90% is how you react to it . ...((HUGS ))
Come here ...You need a hug.
We all need one 
Feeling better now ??
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Me again
Been sitting in the garden since 5.30 am, lovely day. Going to work soon, how about if you have a friend at work maybe just going for a drink or coffee somewhere. just a break from the norm. You have lots of friends on here but it's not the same as real life friends, no offence to the one's on here. People to easily have their lives taken over by virtual friends, all you hear is parents telling kids to make friends and go out. Nothing can replace physical communication and interaction. Just getting away from this and taking in the real world can make a difference. Hope you are better today
Okay, I had a chance to think about this a little more. My emotional hangover's gone. Yes, it's nice and would be nice to get together with someone who lives in my area for coffee or some activity. But I also consider my friends here as "real" and part of my "real life". For some, this is their only means of socializing. For me, it's my preferred, given the location I live and the lack of like minded people. Plus I am pretty sure everyone who I have met here has blood running through their veins, so they are "real". More real than some of the phony people I interact with face to face. To me it's a community, not a virtual reality. I think it's more about balance, which is a challenge for me at times. When I find something I like, I tend to stick with it. I put all my focus into that one thing. Sometimes so much, that I forget to include other things in my life, or neglect things already there. Like when I was studying spirituality, I poured everything into it and would forget to eat. Same thing with people who are workaholics. They work, work, work, and forget they have a family at home. There not balancing work, and other responsibilities or playtime. I guess what I'm saying is I understand you don't mean to offend, but I kind of take offense to that. To me virtual is something you find in a video game....something not real....and I am real! As well as many others here in this community. |
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Edited by
Pepinofruit
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Sat 06/17/17 11:19 PM
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Me again
Been sitting in the garden since 5.30 am, lovely day. Going to work soon, how about if you have a friend at work maybe just going for a drink or coffee somewhere. just a break from the norm. You have lots of friends on here but it's not the same as real life friends, no offence to the one's on here. People to easily have their lives taken over by virtual friends, all you hear is parents telling kids to make friends and go out. Nothing can replace physical communication and interaction. Just getting away from this and taking in the real world can make a difference. Hope you are better today
Okay, I had a chance to think about this a little more. My emotional hangover's gone. Yes, it's nice and would be nice to get together with someone who lives in my area for coffee or some activity. But I also consider my friends here as "real" and part of my "real life". For some, this is their only means of socializing. For me, it's my preferred, given the location I live and the lack of like minded people. Plus I am pretty sure everyone who I have met here has blood running through their veins, so they are "real". More real than some of the phony people I interact with face to face. To me it's a community, not a virtual reality. I think it's more about balance, which is a challenge for me at times. When I find something I like, I tend to stick with it. I put all my focus into that one thing. Sometimes so much, that I forget to include other things in my life, or neglect things already there. Like when I was studying spirituality, I poured everything into it and would forget to eat. Same thing with people who are workaholics. They work, work, work, and forget they have a family at home. There not balancing work, and other responsibilities or playtime. I guess what I'm saying is I understand you don't mean to offend, but I kind of take offense to that. To me virtual is something you find in a video game....something not real....and I am real! As well as many others here in this community. ******************************************************** I think I UNDERSTAND what or how you feel
Take it in the picture
PATIENCE is your name and TIMING is your game . JUST LIKE I DO SEE IT
Don't rush from the frypan to the saucepan
((( HUGS ))) community friend from over the Big Pond |
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I have a hard time admitting this, I would much rather be cheerful and post more positive topics. But I really did have one of those days where I would have rather left work and hid out in my room to have a good cry...over God knows what, because it's nothing in particular, just feeling emotional and vulnerable. Normally I wouldn't put myself "out there" if I'm feeling emotional and vulnerable, but my dear wonderful friend rosie suggested it, so I decided to just do it. It all started way before work, probably due to lack of sleep, but the trigger for my emotional meltdown was a couple of nasty guests and one of my co-workers not agreeing with me about something. I maintained my dignity and went to the office. The Director of my department was there, she's very spiritual and into energy healing kind of stuff. When I'm around her, I can't act like everything's okay...and sure enough, I couldn't this time either. I ended up starting to cry and a whole lot of bottled up thoughts and feelings came flooding out. Instead of letting me go home, she took me for a golf cart ride around the island. We visited the marina, watered the golf cart, went to a little beach and just sat there until I was able to ground myself. She gave me a Rose Quartz to carry with me throughout the day. I told her I wanted to go home, but needed to stay. I was given the option of leaving if I needed to but after an hour, not sooner. I made it through the day and left at the usual time, it gave me more of a feeling of empowerment than the defeated feeling I would have had if I left. I guess I'm rambling and don't know if this makes any sense. I guess I just needed to write about it because sometimes I feel all alone in the world, in the sense that, I, at times have an extremely emotional day for no specific reason other than just being tired, and maybe needing some tender loving care, or a hug. Anyone else ever feel this way? Or have any of you ever just had a sucky day? Edited for typos ********************************************************** Life is good ....TRUST ME
10% is what life throws at you, the other 90% is how you react to it . ...((HUGS ))
Come here ...You need a hug.
We all need one
Feeling better now ??
Much better
So do I call you "Pepi" now. Kind of reminds me of that skunk Pepe Le Pew 
I'm sure you smell much better though 
Thanks Pepi...I always feel better when you're around (((HUGS)))
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