I have been with this guy now for about a month if not longer. I enjoy being around him, I enjoy cuddling with and doing things with him. I enjoy ever part of the relationship but the sex. I like him in every way a girlfriend should like her boyfriend. I just do not find myself sexually attracted to him. And I do not know what to do. Anybody have any ideas how to solve this problem, or even approach it? I do not want to hurt him, as I really do like him a lot, I don't know, I guess that is why I am coming to you guys for help.

ooh that's a toughie.

have you tried spicing things up a bit? When you first started dating were you attracted to him? If you were... then I guess you need to figure out why you are not anymore...

I guess I should also mention that he is quite a bit larger then me. And sex is just painful and awquard.

Maybe you can try to figure out why you are not attracted to him. Or maybe your sex drive is just at a low period right now.

maybe your just not attracted to a guy that's larger than you?

if the sex is awkward and painful...well have you tried different positions? you on top???

Have you talked to him about this??

Talk to him and let him know whats going on and maybe you can try some different approachs for the sex problem.

hmmm this is a new one.. ive heard im too big for girls. but i dunno this is just werid.. i agree try different positions.. or spice it up a bit

honestly, what I think... you are just not that into him. Maybe you really like him and enjoy cuddling and things because you are lonely and he is a decent guy to be around.
If you are not attracted to him than you really should tell him...

i agree completely

I understand that I should tell him, I just do not know how to even bring it up. I have tried being on top, but again awkward. ?My legs spread to far out that it felt like I was doing the splints, definetly not something I am able to do.

So should I just tell him the way I said it here? I mean I do not want to hurt him, but I just do not know any other way, I just wish the was some way to get over this obstical.

hmmm i'm not sure, i mean you don't want to hurt his feelings but sometimes it's better for you to just be honest with him.

ANY guy opinions here?

This is never an easy thing to do... I agree you don't want to hurt him but when he eventually finds out, and he will, he will be hurt even more.
I say you just talk to him, tell him the truth, that it hurts, you aren't comfortable. Maybe you two can find an alternative to make you both happy. Maybe you can't, either way, it needs to be worked out and brought up.
Maybe tell him you just aren't into sex right now...

I like to cuddle , but the 1s I run into don't