i posted this originally in my profile but i want feedback.

so i find myself intrigued by people and their stories. the moments that define a person's character, the event's that shape a personality to what it is now. i find myself engrossed in the present moment, knowing that nothing real is threatened, and nothing unreal exists. therefore only these things are true: truth, love & creation are real, as perception, fear & reaction are unreal. it amazes me the extent an individual will go to find a connection....to anyone, anything that makes them feel alive, energized, happy, loved & at peace. those core needs of certainty, uncertainty, intimacy, significance, growth & contribution that make for fulfilled life worth living. how without those things there isn't really a purpose to life. there are countless people on sites such as these from all over the world connecting to the world wide web, the internet making the world smaller & yet too many people are still unfulfilled. too many people know who they are, where they are, what they want & yet for whatever reason do not have it. too many people settling for less than what they deserve, what they know they truly want & need. too many people afraid to be their true selves, acting in total faith, in the moment, in complete integrity, in complete honesty, trusting that if only they would just be in the moment rather than react to it, that they could create something truly amazing. but most people don't dare to do that. fear of rejection. fear of acceptance. fear of failure. fear of success. fear of fill in the blank. too many fears. not enough fearlessness. i am done for now but i will always have questions. i will always desire more. and all i truly desire is answers...

Mickalainell i guess what feedback are you looking for? Opinions on this topic or just what i thought about this?

I think you hit alot of important and interested subjects good work..

both. i want opinions & thoughts. i want to open a discussion.

Your post sounds alot like what Harold Kushner writes about in his book "Living a Life That Matters" The drive to feel wanted needed and loved, to have a life with meaning. If you are having trouble finding it in "the world" try to find it in God first, then express what you have found.

Living in the Now, this moment in time, this place, here, right now.

Not five years ago, not next week, month, year, but right here, right now, in your thread responding to you.

No grasping, needing, nothing, just allowing this moment to be.

Accepting your thoughts, and accepting what flows from my fingers as I type, from reading your thoughts.

Exchange of this moment, exchange of views, exchange of breath...the exchanging of energies between another, is what draws me here.

Not alone, not lonely, not lost, or wanting, not requiring anything from you...just sharing.

This is where I reside, here in this moment, offering and sharing, and requiring nothing in return...living in this Now.

Our fears are a natural way to protect ourselves from harm, but in the end, alot of those fears hurt us instead.

I agree somewhat that people date "less than what they deserve". I agree there are real dirtbags out there (men and women) who don't deserve to have anyone love them and trust them.

However, everyone has flaws. There is no perfect person, no Prince Charming or Miss America. We should not dismiss just because someone is "flawed" in some way.

I have bipolar depression and have been rejected numerous times because of that. I understand the fear of the unknown from other women, and I would be tentative also about getting in a relationship where there may be flaws that I am not up to speed on.

But I also know that I am a good person and it takes alot of effort to overcome the negative stereotypes about bipolar. That is OK...like I said everyone has problems and they must get past their obstacles also.

So I hope people will NOT dismiss others because they are "less than what they deserve". After all, they may be missing out on some wonderful and happy times. Thanks for the interesting post!

Ken

i agree that fears hurt us instead of protect us. i guess what bothers me is the lack of rational honest communication. dang it i brain farted and lost my train of thought. hate when that happens. grrrr.