Here is a new idea, well i mean the idea is old, but maybe a new concept for JSH....

Talking with Geek2the10th about profiles...




You are not the only one in the spot you are in.... the one maybe hasn't logged in yet or signed up yet?? In network marketing this gal named Dani Johnson said "you can find 100 no's before you get 1 yes" ...... why not that ratio in relationships?

What not throw out your profile link like a resume?? Market yourself? To get a job, you have to take that resume everywhere, right? Well you got a JSH profile link, why not market it?? I am serious, submit your link to search engines??
Put it up on other dating sites too LOL ... Go to local sites, get your link up!! Heck, get calling cards printed up with your web addy..... be more proactive than waiting for lightening to strike and the angel fall from heaven and land at your gate....


I mean cripes, it's like networking, you tell afriend, hey dating, need yadda yadda, give out #, but rather than wait for someone to call ya (or be called for the kickball team), do stuff that you like to do, those interests might be where you find something...?

And being called for the kickball team... It's their loss if you aren't called, but not the end of the world... ya know?

I used to joke with my mom I would find my guy in a grocery or bookstore because that is where I hung out, sad, but hey I like to cook, read & eat...

Where did I find my guy? in a forum and we argued with each other over a trivial matter and found some things very similar and it has just progressed and blossomed.

Was I expecting it? No....

But maybe try something unconventional....

wat are u talking about who the hell plays kickball, dogde ball up in here lol

Jeezzzzzzzz....

No it was referred to not getting picked for a kickball team in reference to reality of what it feels like now....



Ever have that feeling?? Being picked last or Not getting picked at all??

idk i was glad i always got picked last , i would hide my skill in any sport but when i played people were shcked for not pickingme first

thank you but I think you took my jest a little too seriously. I am on other sites, I've had decent luck here but people I find seem to be as far away from me as possible. I'm not down, I have a self deprecating sense of humor. Thanks for the pep talk though.

A lot of dating sites don't allow you to put up links in profiles cause otherwise there'd be no reason to pay their monthly. Number one moral of the story....never take anything I say too seriously.

Well then maybe your skill will land you the woman of your dreams

Now ya tell me LOL

Oh well maybe it will help someone else...

thanks for the effort though, I'm sure people will find it useful.

I think what's helped me is talking to people here, even if they live to far away to be in a relationship with (who knows cause I've always wanted to check cali out anyways) talking to people who find you attractive, smart, funny raises your self confidence to where one might be more comfortable going out and making the first move.

I really shouldn't complain. I'm blessed with a lot. I don't know why I sometimes freeze up and can't think of things to say. There was a very very attractive asian girl on the train platform the other day, I mean the other guys on the platform were whispering about her. She turned and I saw her look at me, then turned away, then she kept turning back to me. I sat there like an idiot and she got on the train. I'd probably have a lot of luck if I break out of my shell a little and perhaps this place is helping me do that.

"Geek" is the man. I feel your pain though... you do seem to have a good personality and everything. I know if I was a girl I'd at least give you my number

Okay can I smack ya??? Please!!!!! OMG!! I don't care if your balls shrink to marbles, next time you SMILE, WAVE, imagine my hand pushing you on the back closer to ENGAGE BRAIN AND OPEN MOUTH!! LOL





Okay so what else can we do to help boost self confidence???

hmm marketing me... i think this on here is a myth, just my opinion

yeah but you'd probably be pushing me onto the train tracks....that's not very nice.

If I had the money I'd.....no no not do THAT...I'd take some cooking classes and dancing classes (I want to do those things anyways, but probably good places to meet women)

If I just have an opening to talk I'd be fine but approaching random strangers on the street has always made me feel like I'd be bothering them.

thanks for the vote of confidence Mr. Green

Geek probably every guy here has been in that situation. Most if not all of up probably did the same thing you did. Don't give up you will get a lady don't worry it will happen. Have faith in you abilities.

confidence, ahhhhh.. Probability here.. When approaching a woman you have only 2 outcomes, 1 yes, 2 no a 50% chance on a good outcome i think those are good odds, yet after knowing your chances you not able to persue?

To me, dating isn't really like marketing. In marketing you're trying to sell sell sell. Dating is more of an expendition, you are discovering new lands, learning new cultures, etc.

Well presentation is marketing... i agree to some extent on here. Then again presentation with wrong intentions most people catch, Then again genuine intentions have opposite reactions, generally faking attitudes.

No not onto the tracks themselves.... just nudge you into her and excuse myself to both of you , bow out and stand behind to watch the fireworks happen

There is an old saying... and for the life of me I can't grab it off my tongue LOL

Sometime strangers are just waiting for someone to smile, say hi, hows the weather, can I help you with that... Disclaimer here, but in my opinion, we are not very friendly to one another anymore... we get so caught up in the me, me, me we forget their is a world outside of us...

Geek, Whats is so different in Messaging people on here vs IN person?

Marketing IS very important in dating....

You meet someone.... You got less than 5 minutes to make an impression and already she either has the second date playing out in her head or looking for a way to bail that very night....

anyone that tells me otherwise is BS'ing themselves....

Sorry, butting in here....

Messaging is safe, you don't that have that person looking at you standing within your bubble...

Myself I prefer the message approach first... amazing what you can find out through emails/messaging...