Topic: Caregiver Fatigue
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Sun 05/07/17 08:29 AM
I am a 51 year old male. I have given up my career and home in order to move back in with my elderly and sickly parents. I am not complaining, but sometimes this new life overwhelms me. Would love to chat with some single women who might be in a similar situation.

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Sun 05/07/17 11:30 PM
What you speak of is not an easy thing on many levels.
And it does take an emotional toll..
I have worked as a caregiver. Both for pay and as a labor of love.
If at all possible, enlist the help of others.
When i worked for a company that provides in home health care, one of my weekly assignments was to give the wife of my client a much needed break from giving him round the click care.
On that evening i would stay with him for a few hours and she would go to her weekly get together with her church group. She said that's what helped keep her sane.
When a neighbor down the street who was like a second mom needed round the clock care i would sometimes spen Friday nights at her house to give one of her 2 children a day off.
Build a support system with people because you need to take care of yourself too.

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Mon 05/08/17 02:06 AM

What you speak of is not an easy thing on many levels.
And it does take an emotional toll..
I have worked as a caregiver. Both for pay and as a labor of love.
If at all possible, enlist the help of others.
When i worked for a company that provides in home health care, one of my weekly assignments was to give the wife of my client a much needed break from giving him round the click care.
On that evening i would stay with him for a few hours and she would go to her weekly get together with her church group. She said that's what helped keep her sane.
When a neighbor down the street who was like a second mom needed round the clock care i would sometimes spen Friday nights at her house to give one of her 2 children a day off.
Build a support system with people because you need to take care of yourself too.


I totally agree with the above. If you do not get respite you will burn out or go bonkers. My experience is real went eight years with out a holiday. last Nov and Feb took a week vacation on each occasion. It worked wonders mentally. Care giving is physical but very much mental as well. A suggestion is to find a part time job to assist in subsidizing some home care. Depends where you live but there are gov't programs that may assist. Good luck! your a angel for what you done.:angel: :angel:

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Mon 05/08/17 11:39 AM

I am a 51 year old male. I have given up my career and home in order to move back in with my elderly and sickly parents. I am not complaining, but sometimes this new life overwhelms me. Would love to chat with some single women who might be in a similar situation.



I have been in many situations as you are ...
if you need someone to just talk it out ... I would be happy to listen... as one friend to another ...

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Tue 05/09/17 04:52 PM
be very very careful. don't let life slip by like I did for 15 years like I did to take care of a parent. I looked up after 15 years and said to myself​, wow, it's over, my prime years GONE.

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Wed 05/10/17 12:44 PM
Spending the decades plus that is often required to caregiver for family can be very oppressive.

AS a caregiver/guardian you can get Master Degree Social Work assistance through your parents insurance carrier or County Mental Health. And no you and your parents don't have to be crazy. Start by calling the 800 #.

All larger communities have what are called Center for Independent Living that can give you a host of resources.

Smaller even rural communities can ask their United States Postal Service letter carrier for a starting resource list.

What many don't know is that there are alternatives, at least in the USA under medicare or medicare long term care. It can and does help to use adult daycare centers or even skilled care homes. Many weekend at home without being discharged. And Mass transit can take them curb to curb.

One person can not possibly be what a team needs to be doing. Unfortunately families often abandon the entire responsibility to one live in family member. That is when Hospice programs can help. Many even offer even short term breaks for sole caregivers.

It also may be possible to use a reverse mortgage or part of life insurance benifits for part time in home care.

If YOUR parents means are extremely limited and or they are medically fragile there are numerous discount programs that can free funds for supplemental caregivers. ESPECIALLY if either were veterans including what some elderly do mistakenly think is not veteran service as National Guard. Also poor elderly qualify for food stamps, WIC, and food bank help.

Occasionally you can by going through your local high school, community college, or university post part-time employment and initially interview on campus. Your states minimum wage would be required.

ALSO your city or county Parks and Recreation have Senior Centers where often caregivers socialize with or while parents participate. I hugely enjoyed my weekly caregiver lunch group.



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Wed 06/07/17 11:32 PM
Wow!!...very good points in the replies...i just want to say, be careful, the toll on you could result in a toxic situation, and there have been cases of very unhealthy situations due to a burned out caregiver