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Topic: Would You Date Someone You Work With?
WorldWarZeke Joined Sun 10/06/13 Posts: 869	Fri 04/28/17 04:40 PM
The workplace is where a majority of people meet their significant other so that's always an option I keep open but that being said I once worked with my ex wife and that was not an ideal situation for me.

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Fri 04/28/17 04:44 PM
The workplace is where a majority of people meet their significant other so that's always an option I keep open but that being said I once worked with my ex wife and that was not an ideal situation for me. Could be really rough if your ex was your supervisor...

WorldWarZeke Joined Sun 10/06/13 Posts: 869	Fri 04/28/17 04:59 PM
I also did that when I was younger but luckily for me she was pretty mature and understanding that we didn't work out.

Piscesmoon02 Joined Wed 11/02/16 Posts: 56490	Fri 04/28/17 05:06 PM
The workplace is where a majority of people meet their significant other so that's always an option I keep open but that being said I once worked with my ex wife and that was not an ideal situation for me. Yes, I see that in my work place. I work at a resort on one of the Keys and the closest town is ten miles away. There are a lot who come from all over the world and stay in employee housing. So for some, it is not only the work environment, but the social one as well...relationships do transpire and there are those who are married that work there. But if things don't work out for their relationship, then I see the how uncomfortable it is for them to continue working together. Thank you WorldWarZeke for sharing your experience

WorldWarZeke Joined Sun 10/06/13 Posts: 869	Fri 04/28/17 05:14 PM
Yeah I've definitely witnessed the awkward tension between a couple in the work place when couples break up and it's rough to watch and be in the middle of. I lucked out with the few work relationships I was involved in with a coworker but I get not everyone has had the luck the I've had meeting awesome and understanding people.

Zeet1 Joined Fri 04/28/17 Posts: 24	Sun 04/30/17 02:05 AM
yes

dnewnew Joined Fri 05/30/14 Posts: 243	Sun 04/30/17 09:39 AM
Just the very nature of the time spent w/the person in/out of office spells doom for most "dating a person from work" relationships. You see them 8 hours a day & then after work too? After the initial attraction/lust thing is done, it's just too much togetherness for most people. Also, you might find out their work personality is different from their "real" personality. That will put an end to the dating too. Socio-economically, how likely is it that you would find someone who is aligned horizontally w/your position (not vertical meaning above or below you in pay/job position etc) AND who works in a different department so you don't have actual work interactions, therefore eliminating office gossip about "oh you know how she got her promotion" (& yes, in this day & age it is still assumed the woman slept her way to the top if revelations of interoffice relations come out). A boss will always come out of any "scandal" w/their job intact or a transfer. A subordinate will be fired. I got moved to a window seat at my office (small <20 employees) & had to deal w/comments about my "special treatment" & that was just over a window seat...LOL, no way would I date a fellow employee at any job...way too much that could go wrong.

Nima246 Joined Sat 04/29/17 Posts: 1	Sun 04/30/17 10:00 AM
I can't find anyone

Piscesmoon02 Joined Wed 11/02/16 Posts: 56490	Sun 04/30/17 10:09 AM
Just the very nature of the time spent w/the person in/out of office spells doom for most "dating a person from work" relationships. You see them 8 hours a day & then after work too? After the initial attraction/lust thing is done, it's just too much togetherness for most people. Also, you might find out their work personality is different from their "real" personality. That will put an end to the dating too. Socio-economically, how likely is it that you would find someone who is aligned horizontally w/your position (not vertical meaning above or below you in pay/job position etc) AND who works in a different department so you don't have actual work interactions, therefore eliminating office gossip about "oh you know how she got her promotion" (& yes, in this day & age it is still assumed the woman slept her way to the top if revelations of interoffice relations come out). A boss will always come out of any "scandal" w/their job intact or a transfer. A subordinate will be fired. I got moved to a window seat at my office (small <20 employees) & had to deal w/comments about my "special treatment" & that was just over a window seat...LOL, no way would I date a fellow employee at any job...way too much that could go wrong. Thank you dnewnew for your comments. You made a lot of good points that I agree with. I have done so in the past and it didn't work out so well for either person. As tempting as it may sometimes seem, I would never to it again.

greeneyes148 Joined Fri 12/25/15 Posts: 5830	Sun 04/30/17 10:14 AM
I can't find anyone Well, it is always harder for Siamese twins

Piscesmoon02 Joined Wed 11/02/16 Posts: 56490	Sun 04/30/17 10:16 AM
I can't find anyone Well, it is always harder for Siamese twins Well that and most people probably have the same work ethics of what I read here, so best to look outside the work place!