another vital element in the rituals of union ( and i.m.h.o the most important) is esteem.
esteem may well be the glue that holds everything together in ones identity...this may sound selfish or self-centered ,but again i remind you that for successful rites of union one must begin with self and expand from there...

>self-esteem has got to stand alone without any outside conditions<

if our esteem is based on what we have, and we lose what we have, our self esteem is destroyed...

if it is based on what we do, and we can no longer do what we do, it is destroyed...

if based on who we know and we lose those who we know it is destroyed...

if based on what we know and we forget what we know our self esteem
is destroyed...
if i can recognize and accept my self esteem without outside conditions i shall be more complete and be able to respect the esteem of others...
respect is everything..:)

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