I guess for me, it wouldn't be apparent that there was an "odd woman out." I would neither be intimidated nor predatory; I would just be clueless.

I have much more important things in life to do & think about, than to wonder about someone elses life, Who they are with & what they are doing.

Word of advice,,, If it bothers you so much. get a date

Myuser....actually it doesn't "bother me so much" I was just looking for a little advice! A lot of people here like to get various tips on different aspects of their life!! That's why this forum is called Relationship Advice!! If you are to important to wonder about someone elses life than maybe you should stay in the more self gratifying threads

Ress....thank you once again for your unjudging opinion

i'd catch her in a dark alley and take her home to show mama...weeeehooooo

yep...your mama would be REALLY impressed w/ me right now!!

You know what really blows my mind fresh.........is.......men think???

you gonna be in a dark alley anytime soon?

You took the words right out of my fingers Gypsy

No JT....I am safely locked in my house No mama meetings for me tonight

@ Gypsy and Jess....every girl needs some male insight once in a while!!

pfft,y'all always need our insight....

guess i better watch it or i'm gonna get myself in trouble

FreshMountainAir, I find a woman in a group of people to be much more intimidating than a girl alone. I'm not very good at approaching women under any circumstances. If she's at a table with other people, even if it's easy to determine that she's the "unattached" one, my first assumption is that going over and chatting her up would be interrupting.

Of course, the last time I went and chatted up a girl who was sitting alone (because her friends were playing a game of pool), one of her friends rushed over and "rescued" her as soon as she saw me talking to her. Bummer.

I don't think whether you are in a crowd or not is relevant to anything. Most guys that are looking for someone are just looking for someone they are attracted to and can have a good time with. The biggest problem is that, confidence or not, most guys find the approach the scariest. no one likes rejection, male or female. If you see someone you like let them know with your body language, eye contact, and the fact that you looked at them and went alone to the bar or elsewhere to let them approach you privately. Give them signals, not with flags and such of course, that you would like to speak with them or that you are interested. you will find that with attractive women like yourself most guys will not believe that they have a chance and leave it at that. Lack of confidence currently should not be n indication that they are not good enough, because think about it, are you walking up to perfect strangers and asking them out? Allot of these guys are the guys that will treat you right and just have had enough **** dumped on them that they don't feel right about themselves at the moment. Let them know they can approach you. If they don't show, your night isn't totally ruined because you are out with friends and you can always do this same thing to someone else you would like to meet. Here's a clue most men do not get hints very easily, so be less subtle but don't go out of you way to meet them. Take the middle ground, let them know and then let them approach you, also when they do approach you, don't play the games, let them know what you think. I hate games, I appreciate bluntness in conversation. hopefully this helps you out.

basically dating is a two way street and so is meeting someone for the first time, making someone else do all the work is just not right or at least that is my opinion.

Tim

I've done this, I was Having dinner with a cpl and was the 3rd wheel. I noticed a lady sitting accross the room with another cpl. She was sipping on a glass of white wine and kept glancing my way. I stopped the waiter and sent another glass of wine to her with a note that said "Hello, my name is Tommy, If you are not attached to anyone I would like to get to know you." We dated for about a 2 years. The key to me would be if she gave me a 2nd glance I would approach her in a non aggressive manner.

like ress says - a guy never knows who is with who or who is available. even if there is a table full of leering women with
thongs visible and restraint lacking.

often the whole lot of them are married and out just looking
for trouble. so it means nothing...

if you want to meet singles on these nights out - i'd recommend
inviting some singles to join you someplace fun where you can
play pool and chat for example - and have your married friends
invite some of their other single acquaintances to help keep it
lively and well...fresh like

I'm the single girl out with the couples. All my friends are attached. They invite me,we go out. I'm there to have fun with my friends. I'm not worried about what other people think. I'm not desperate or lonely. If a guy wanted to talk to me,though,I would think he was pretty brave for coming up to me in that situation and I would probably have a conversation with him. So who cares what a guy thinks of you when you're out with your friends? Hold your head high and have fun!

Let's put the shoe on the other foot here.

What do you ladies think when you see several couples....and a guy by himself with them?

fresh,
i am the guy in that situation. i hang with a lot of couples on a regular bases because i choose to. i never think about it and talk to whoever i want to or whoever talks to me.
i would leave a female in that situation alone unles she made some sort of move/contact with me because you never know what the deal is.

I would only NOTICE her as being ALONE, if SHE turned my head with HER ACTIONS, even if it was JUST her BEAUTY, a LAUGH, a GLANCE, a walk passed me.
But I would HAVE TO, be first drawn to her, to SEE HER!!
Groups PASS but A PRESENCE, is always NOTICED..