I go through a similar circumstance every other weekend with my two kids (son, 10 and daughter 4). Anger and sadness is a typical reaction of grieving children, or anyone for that matter. Think about it, what kind of emotions did you deal with when you split?

The very best thing you can do is try to remain calm when he yells, screams and throws things. A loving embrace to your child goes a long way. Even better than that is communication. Ask your child how he/she feels and why they feel that way. It is so important to reassure them that not only that they are loved, but that Mom is there to help them get through this.

We spend so much time trying to protect our children and we do not wish to see them suffer in this manner. However, we know that we can not change the past or take away their hurt or pain. Just keep on being the very best mother that you can be, consistenly reassuring him with your loving encouragement and embrace. Perhaps a good outlet would be for him and you to go for a walk when he gets home from his Dad's. Not only is this a great time to bond, but to defuse his anger. Depending upon the emotion at the time you can either talk about his time with his dad or simply use it to change the direction of his thinking (example: talk about nature, etc.).

I wish you so much success. I know this is very stressful, but while your marriage has fallen apart you are still comitted to a lifelong journey with your child. And don't forget, one of the best ways to help him is to deal with you own pain and lead by example.

Laugh a lot and Smile often,

Billy