No Brain you did not say it,, lol you typed it

Brian dont give us ladies ideas.......

yes dear

Hmm 1 more thing i have been thinking about.. Have there been alot of false accounts on here. Like pictures shows one person and it turns out to be totally different person?

Hi Kalamazoo and welcome to JSH. I had the same problem you did, only I wasn't able to accept the IM for some reason. It only happened the first few times, and has been fine ever since. Maybe it's a quirk. As one of the other ladies mentioned,sometimes it's hard to notice the IM box when it comes up. I miss them all the time. The other thing is, there's lots of us who post in the forums and we may get involved doing that and not be interested in accepting Im's unless it's someone we know.
In answer to your question about pictures. There's always some folks who aren't honest in their profiles, and yes, I have heard stories from some of my friends where the woman was not like her profile. I think that's dishonest,as do many others, but that does not mean most folks aren't on the up and up. Hope you enjoy the site.