When i was a teenage girl, i know one of my closed friend likes me but i avoided him coz i treated him as my best friend till we had our own family. Then he came in dubai and same as i am looking for a brighter future. We were still best drinking budies then he tried and loose control until today he tamed me as a friend only coz his married. But its been 3yrs and i've learned to loved him. Im separated. For last 6yrs with a daughter. Just cant move on with this relationship coz i loved him so much but he has othergirls aside from me. Is this really love or just believing that this could be love.

Hmmm.. some deep stuff.

Let me smoke a joint first, then I will answer, o.k.?.. talk later

K will wait for that

So...this guy is married.
He has a bunch of other girls, that are probably more than "just friends."

But he says you are only a friend?


Sure.
Just not romantic love.
I mean cult followers "love" their leaders too.
Delusional fans "love" celebrities.


Sounds more like a defense mechanism.
Lots of people force themselves to feel love, or excitement, or happiness, or pleasure, as a means to protect themselves from being hurt, to avoid change, risky effort...fear. Fear is scary and hurts.
Feels better to deflect to some other emotion.
Easier to rationalize and delude oneself into feeling something else until the fear isn't an immediate concern anymore.

Tends to lead to self destructive behaviors and habits, though.
Ask anyone addicted to the internet, especially those that think their community and friends are those they only see through the screen.
Easier to sit online and pretend you're in a "friend" relationship than face the idea of being alone or doing something about it.

Sometimes i feel that he loves me more than his wife. But his really a playboy and that he cant avoid.i also tried to leave in this relationship but still i cant... Maybe im so scared to be left alone again.

ok., I smoked the joint.. and satisfied the munchies. So I'm ready.

so where were we.... oh , yeah

Well, just dump his lame a** and find someone else.

how's that for advice?

I know its not fair to his wife but i tried so hard to avoid this kind of relationship. Actually his not calling it a relationship coz his telling me that im not his mistress or gf... He keeps on telling me wer only a friend but the things that his doing shows that wer not like that. I know that he just dont want to admit that he loves me coz he wants to protect his family. And thats his ways thats y hes not involving himself in a serious relationship

I think U cant just dump a guy whos with u for almost half of ur life... His my best friend and i love him so much.

I think U cant just dump a guy whos with u for almost half of ur life... His my best friend and i love him so much.

You keep saying ****ing friend. Are you having sex with him or is he using that word to make a point? Either eay, he is married and seems he already gave you his answer

Yeah wer doing that and when he tried to do that i thought he reAlly likes to keep me but later on he called our relationship as like that a ****ing friend only.

Yeah wer doing that and when he tried to do that i thought he reAlly likes to keep me but later on he called our relationship as like that a ****ing friend only.

you may love him.. but he doesn't love you back.. If he did, he would never talk to you in that manner

And it is not going to change... he is married to another woman.

I would dump him.. if you don't, he will continue to use you.. and that is exactly what he is doing.. for sex

dump and run honey.. surely you want more for you and your daughter..
he is clearly using you and you are letting him.. and he's married.. another no, no..tsk, tsk..Does he at least support you in any manner? just asking.

mammm

I gotta say tis one get's right to the point after the munchies.

Sounds like you are just an option to him. He is giving you false hopes (or is it the other way around) Why do you complicate things? What you're doing is worse than being rejected. Just break it off with him.

He's married... He's a playboy you said... He's you're friend as what you said again... Whichever and no matter you look and think of it you're still going to be one of his side chicks if ever... And no sane woman would want to be a side chick sweetie