Id like some female advice..... I have had a few long relationships with women, but have been leading a secret bi life. Ive never ĉeated on any woman, all my bi times were while in between, what is the general feeling among the girls about guys being bi and having a R.ship with a bi guy

what is the general feeling among the girls about guys being bi and having a R.ship with a bi guy


Hell to NO, Joe

Sounds to me like it's time to get real...timetogetreal

my feeling is that instead of running around with some dude


ya might want to think about being upfront with a woman about being bi

and wanting an open relationship

With this kind of thing, there's no such thing as "female advice," or "male advice," for that matter.

What you are looking for, is an extremely specific kind of person, who isn't prejudiced against bisexuality, and who finds you personally attractive.

Asking this, is no different from a logical standpoint, than asking for general advice about having a physical handicap, or lack of wealth, or no hair (or way too much) or any other unique set of traits and predilections.

The main advice I would give you, is to work on thinking of yourself, and of everyone else, less as categories, and more as individual people.

After all, any relationship that goes beyond surface things, is going to be between specific PEOPLE. Not just ideas of people.

I stated this in another thread:

"Sexual preferences will never and should never define any soul.

It might add more life or possibilities to a personality, but it can't define that either, unless one lets it."


The thing is, when it comes to the personal preferences of others, this very well may go out the window in the grand scheme of things for many reasons, as you already know, and a few you might yet learn.

ALL BEHAVIOR DEFINES WHO WE ARE.!!!!!!! WE ALL WOULD LIKE TO ALWAYS PUT THE

BLAME FOR OUR LIVES ''OUT THERE''. OUR CHOICES DO DEFINE WHO WE ARE,

....SOME OF US USE ALL KINDS OF EXCUSES TO AVOID RESPONSIBILITY FOR THERE

ACTIONS....ITS NOT FARE TO THE WOMAN WITH ADDED RISKS OF STD'S AND OTHER

ISSUES...

my general philosophy is if one plans for a relationship to be or become sexual,, they should be upfront about their sexual interests and habits beforehand

Exactly. Two men having sex increases the risk of STD's and it's only right that the person your dating know that going in.

personally ... I would try and choose one person or another ...
possibly the one you like being in the relationship most anyway ... or just stay as you are and be both ... u seem to say you are up front and open then tell the person you are bi right up front ... let them decide if they can handle that ... there are a lot of choices ... do what you think is best for you ... if you want to just be singleish with fwb then do that... I understand why you would not tell either ... but better to be open if you believe you like someone enough ... then not ...

its also sexier to have these discussions before engaging in such an intimate act,, it starts to ,,,,penetrate whats between the ears long before anything else


best partner ever was the one who discussed with me the things he was into, what I Can epect, and what he likes,, before we ever got started

and there was less guess work once we were there,,,

Most women don't like that because they think the guy is just out for sex if the guy does that.