Since this is a dating site I will limit it to that.
My stand is to avoid people that make it a point to mention it in their profile that they are celibate. Especially if they're proselytizing the lifestyle to get me to believe its magical wonders.

My opinion on celibacy as regards to meeting people on dating sites is it's no different than alcoholics that go into AA, get addicted to coffee, cigarettes, exercise, and/or religion.

People sublimate their desires if they don't fulfill them properly.

They think they're channeling energies positively but they aren't, at best they are just channeling energies into things not as harmful.

The less you fulfill your naturally occurring biological imperatives in ways they were meant to be fulfilled, the greater the long term costs.

Not fulfilling your natural desires is little different than not facing your fears. They grow in importance, and you are less capable at dealing with them.


Sure we can.
They aren't absolutely the biggest factors of influence.
Some people have an excessive fear response.
Just like premature babies have a tendency to overreact to noise.
People fear the unfamiliar and new, change.
During puberty you get a hell of a lot of change and unfamiliar feelings and new urges.
Lots of people become celibate as a means of avoiding those scary new emotions and feelings and urges and the fear those things engender because they don't know how to handle them.
They may rationalize using cultural upbringing and tight religious beliefs, those are handy scapegoats. "It's not me! It's society! Yeah, that's the ticket."


This sentence is not that clear.
Celibacy can be both cultural upbringing and tight religious beliefs?
Celibacy can be neither an option or a choice?
Cultural upbringing and tight religious beliefs can be neither an option or a choice?

Other than that, celibacy is always a choice.
If it's not a choice, then some other word applies.
If you refuse to eat the food in front of you, it's a diet.
If you wander the desert with no food, it's starvation, not dieting.
If you have no money to buy food or no one will sell you food because you can't pay, you're poor, not dieting.
If you can't grow your own food, it's incompetence, not dieting.

At best celibacy is a choice where you want something but you fear the consequences of the choice more.
Horrible undesirable consequences doesn't mean you don't have a choice.
If you see yourself as celibate and are raped, it doesn't mean you aren't being celibate, only that you were/are raped.