I'm not exactly sure how you mean this but how it's typed no, not really.

Otherwise I'd start dating dudes, and 4 year olds, and 97 year olds, and chimpanzee's that know sign language.

They all fulfill the criteria of "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with."

Plus I think I would be a real a-hole if I did the whole "well, I never dreamed I would like you, let alone fall in love with you, dating you was purely an experiment to get out of my comfort zone or whatever, or I simply felt sorry for you and to feel like a good person I decided I'd deign to date you, thank god I used you for that! Turned out well, huh."

Otherwise the whole "dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" seems to offer a huge danger of "a sure road to settling because you want immediate emotional gratification and a false sense of security, and you're only expanding your horizons because what you were doing wasn't working for you in getting what you want."


IOW there seem to be far more negative possibilities stemming from"dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" for the off chance that you hit the super mega powerball love and viable relationship jackpot.

So, no, I wouldn't take the risk dating "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with."


Sometimes the measure of an adult is being prepared for surprises.


What is right for you, or wrong for you, changes throughout your life, it can even change on a day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, basis.

I think a better leading question would have been something like "do you believe in the immutability of your personality and life, that who you are is who you are, and who you like is who you like, always and forever, that you have a very specific type that is your ideal match. And if so, what would get you to take a risk/chance on dating someone you never dreamed you might like or fall in love with?"


If you don't address the...default mind set...of the people answering your question, the answers are ultimately meaningless.
I say I won't take a chance, but what does that mean to you?
Do you simply read "closed minded?"

Let's say I will date any woman I find attractive between the ages of 28-50, any race, any culture, within the neighborhood of my location, in a city of millions of people.
But I said I won't take a chance.

Then Pete McPetey responds after me that "yeah! I'm changing lately! I'm broadening my horizons! You have to have an open mind to find love! I'm willing to take that chance!"
Only in practical reality that translates to the standard of an attractive woman between the ages of 25-26, blonde, christian, southern american, within the city of 1500 people , but there's this brunette that's 25-26, christian, southern, he's had his eye on and he's thinking of going for.


What meaning did the answers "I won't take/haven't thought about taking a chance" vs. "I would take, do think about taking, a chance!" really provide you?

taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with?

Sometimes...life surprises you. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't

Take a chance and see what happens

Yes, I have. Often. And always got disappointed. Always ended up thinking "See, my intuition was right all along, I should really learn to pay heed to what it says!"

Depends,

If i feel i'm sacrificing some part of myself in order to date this person, then no.

But on the other hand, if I realize some things on my list of 'check boxes' are really not that important in the long run and I'm evolving in what my ACTUAL needs may be, then yes.

Example:
List I created when I was 14..she had to be blonde and big boobs, and perhaps I'd doggedly stuck to that throughout the years, Now a brunette comes along and I'm attracted to...then perhaps I could scratch off that criteria.

However: Other criteria, such as compatibility, communication, etc...I won't sacrifice those, just for the sake of having someone around.


I think everyone creates lists(or has ideas of what they want) at some point, but I also believe those lists should be changing constantly as what we needed when we were in our teens, SHOULD be different when we are in our 30's, 40's 50's etc....

But I have seen some people hold on to the list from their teens, never altering, never compromising, every person they reject at some point because they aren't 'perfect'....I have a name for those people...I call them...Single

taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with?

Sometimes...life surprises you. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't

Take a chance and see what happens

Great advice candi ... Personally .. I have always remained open to possibilities when it comes to dating .. No tick list ... Just chemistry :-)

I agree with Blondey. It's all about chemistry. I have never had a list although I do tend to be more attracted to tall, dark and handsome