why is it all about this or that, just kick it and have a good time....not too much to ask right?

Okaaaay.... is this another attempt to hint around that you want to have commitment free sex?

no, kick it and have a good time means just that.... hang out, laugh, talk about whatever

Last time I heard that, I met him at a bar and had to peel his hand off me to get away. Hang out may mean that to you but to every other man I've met it means commitment free, sorry dude.

People do.
All the time.
With friends and family and doing hobbies.
People and things with which they've established a relationship and therefore already know that they're going to laugh and have fun without wasting their time.

They know what to expect, and can feel comfortable and safe in a situation allowing them to focus on laughing and having fun.
Meeting strangers is not conducive to a feeling of security or comfort.


People want to know your expectations.

The more vague you are with terms and ideas like "this or that," and "kick it," and, "have a good time," the more it's going to come across that you are actually hiding what you really want, being coy.

I don't know your actual approach though.

IME you get a far different reaction between approaches like:
"Want to like just kick it, hang out, see what happens, just have fun, have a laugh, talk about anything at all, just whatever?"
vs.
"Pete McPete is performing at the Tempe Improv this Friday. I've got two tickets. I love that guy, he makes me laugh. Would you go with me? The show's at 8. We can just meet there, have fun, and laugh for a couple of hours."


Specificity clarifies expectations they can hold you to.
IME women prefer that.

You say something like "let's kick it, have a good time. Just hang out, laugh, talk about whatever," to a woman online she's probably going to read "I don't want to take you out, I want you to come by my house at 1 a.m. after I've been to the bars, I want you to entertain me and have an instant rapport, and I want to feel comfortable confessing my fetishes and feel like I can talk about sex because that's really what I want to do."


From a virtual stranger you meet via the internet it is too much to ask.

At best what you're asking is:
"Where on the internet are all the happy outgoing gregarious people that are completely at ease, open minded, and love to be around people just for the sake of social interaction?"

You aren't really going to find that type on the internet.

If you truly only want to:

then your best bet is to find a bar or cultivate friendships with coworkers.
If it has to be with a woman, then you're lying to yourself or us about something here.

And people say I breakdown stuff....

I must've missed that while I was out having fun

There is a law against laughing and having fun... didn't you get the memo??

Good thing I'm not anybody.