Been with my partner 30 years and not been intimate for a couple of years. When asked why she replied " you don't do anything for me anymore " what is a 63 old guy guy meant to do ?

Marriage counseling
Divorce
And MOVE out


Like everyone else.

Wow that's sad

would love too but like many others can't afford it !

What is she supposed to do?

Think about that. This isn't about you. This is about both of you.
You should... be asking HER, " What do you want?", " What do you need?"
Etc.

Because right now, it really appears as if you are blaming her, feeling sorry for yourself & looking for pity sex.

Instead of realizing that she is unhappy too. And one way or another... you are part of that.

If you truly love her and want her back then bring a fresh air to things, romance her, make her feel important, try to get the fire back.If its over don't be hung up on the age thing,you only have one life to live. Be happy and best wishes to you sir.

if it's simply lack of libido
then it may be due to hormones
if it's no interest in you
in particular..it may be due to relationship issues


now since you have decided to come onto a dating site

to air your woes


I think you may want to consider
what it is you may be contemplating


or are you at that point that
you are hoping to find

someone interested in
a casual encounter?

in this age human want love more and sex less.... if love is there sex is not important sex is a express love but not every time... may need more love

Thank you my friends !

Get off the couch,
take a shower
have a haircut
exercise.. walk at least 3 miles a day
get a hobby or two.. gardening is a great hobby

stop feeling sorry for yourself
mow the lawn
buy her chocolates
give her flowers
wash the dishes
take her out dancing

in other words... woo her again.

Good luck

Try and change her mind
Study her because people change
Find out likes and dislikes
What interesting to her
Date her again
Surprise her with things like flowers or doing the stiff around the house that she has been waiting for you to do.

For some ideas watch this movie called Fireproof.
It's exactly what I'm suggesting.
It won't be easy but if all turns out it could be worth it.

All the best

I am in competiton with a thing called Facebook ............. every evening 7pm till bed time xx

Thank you so much great advice will try it especially the exercise xx

hmmm a man with a partner of 30 years is on a dating site?
Does she know you're on a dating site?

If not....

Maybe another problem is she also thinks you're trying to cheat.

Was in your exact situation, no sex for 7 months, only once a month or six weeks for the prior two years, only together 9 years and at 53, thought I'm too old to start over. She too spent everyday on Facebook and texting/talking with friends (both male and female) and got mad at me if I interrupted. But decided I was by myself anyway, thank God, I wasn't in a financial situation like you, since I paid all of the bills, it was actually cheaper for me to divorce her than to stay in a lifeless, sexless marriage.

wow now this is interesting and might deserve it's own thread