I have an ex. We just broke. Everything went too far. He told me at the very start of our relationship, that as long as I don't cheat and I'm loyal to him, he won't leave me. But look at now. My family threatened him. His kids to be exact. That was an empty threat. And I assured him it was nothing because my younger sister who was tactless said that. She doesn't think.
Our last fight started about the anniversary thing, I felt bad because its already the 3rd special occasion of us being together but he did not greet me. So I felt upset. He got angry and said I was asking for too much. He gave me everything. All I wanted was a simple sorry. What else could I do? But he never apologized. Instead, he broke up with me. I tried to fix but it just went more far. We had two years together and exactly two years we broke up because he have me up. Was it my fault that my sister empty threatened his kids? I swear it was nothing. My sister is 17 and she doesn't think of what she says. Sigh. We were suppose to see each other again in two weeks. I'm from Philippines and hes from england. It really upset me. But what can I do? He doesn't want me anymore

Empty or full, a threat is a threat. He might also looking for a simple sorry from your family! Mistake from your end.

The best fishing is in your own back yard.

Exactly, that is the best kind.....also watch out for the piranha...

You know ADD, I've dated Canadian, and Mexico. I've stayed in my own backyard. No need to go overseas!

Why did your sister threaten him? When you get other parties involved in your partners and your personal issues it usually causes problems and your sister being immature should have been put on a leash by you.
If you not respecting the man don't expect him to stay & involving his kids with threats big or small was not a wise thing to do. The problem could possibly be from your side so stop blaming him

Not if your backyard only has 10 fish in it , and some of those fish are too young, too old, married, crazy , inarticulate or gay!

To me the argument you guys had wasn't big enough to warrant a break up of a 2 year relationship with a lot of love in it. Maybe he just got tired of the long distance relationship, and was looking for a way out.

I am sorry for your pain. I hope you find some smiles and positive moments on the way to healing your broken heart and that you learn valuable things from this experience.

have to agree with Peggy

also sounds like maybe you expressed your feelings

because you were not getting what you needed out of the relationship


so maybe both of you were not satisfied

Yeah I feel the same...but there are two Americans, I would like to see swimming in my backyard pond...nekid...but my bait ain't attractive enough...story of my life...lol...

You know, I thought about this. Philippinos and Mexican/Native families are pretty strong and loving and a little over protective. Maybe this Brit realized he wouldn't fit in. Your better off without him. 2 years is a long time. May your pain pass quickly!

You know Rob...u are right....I have seen the trend of LDRs , from those islands...the guys are normally older....and require a sure winner....but there are trade offs and that perhaps is, one of the reasons to , even call of a two year LDR....

Someone allows a threat against my child; empty or not, I would dump them immediately. End of story. No profuse apology from the person would probably help but crying that they had been treated unfairly would get zero attention.

Given the recent events in the world with people traveling across borders to do evil things as a parent I would see a foreign threat as dangerous as someone local. Especially if it meant someone who was planning on following a family member who clearly is not keen on staying somewhere because hardships may exist and be a long term future nightmare.

I generally avoid people who clearly have problem-ed family. I have seen it time and again when someone becomes of childbearing age they seek family contact even if it is a dysfunctional family. Then their "mess" is everyone's misery.

Single people now days have alternatives and greater independence now days and they are not going to become a "halfway" house for the potential partner's family.