ok I have this guy on local who tried to date me while he still processing his divorce to his wife of 10years, off course I said no way, I don't mess around with married people.... and I'm not a home wrecker not my profession and will never be ..

so after three months he was divorce and last night he was telling me his going to phillipines to meet this girl he meet on fB..

I was wondering if he really inloved with this woman or just being inlove with the idea of not wanting to be alone , as he said he is willing to wait until I'm ready

so how long should you enter into New relationship after a failed one...???

PS : I didn't know he has that many reserved (womens) after I drop him.

Oh miss goody two shoes








He means you're just a side dish on waiting list until he satisfies his sexual craving then will move in to u in due time










Whenever you feel ready, it differs with individuals











As if you don't have men on standby

oh I don't , I'm very vocal on telling them I'm not ready and not looking at this moment on my life....

please enlighten me what is that number reffered to???

likewise

Sounds like he is ready to move on
Why should he wait for you?

due to his married history ,I see some red flags on why he always failed.. being rush on everything.

but I wish him the best on his third try... :)

If he really is willing to wait for you he wouldn't be going to Phils to meet some other woman...
I feel we need time to rediscover ourselves after the trauma of a divorce...a healing period where we try and shrug off any baggage, so when we start a new relationship we start afresh...

any red flags are a warning sign...

that's what I thought our heart, mind and body need a healing time .,

I guess so :)
specially if words don't match with their actions

Go mikey
Tell them how its really done..

If I where you op ... I would not give him the time of day ...
seems if he wants to go abroad...
he only wants a women to control ...
and you do not want to be that women ...
you seem smarter then that..:>)

yup ,he kinda looking for woman he can control, the one whose going to follow him all the way ,
but not me I always say whats on my mind...
thank you

That presumes the heart, mind, and body didn't get hurt until the "end" of the relationship.

Lots of people decide something is over, then begin the "healing" process waaaaaaaay before the finalization of the relationship.

I mean

For all I know he spent the last 15 years "processing his divorce" because after 10 years she left for another country and he just found her to sign the papers.

For all I know they decided to follow through on a divorce, sign the papers, yesterday, but he or they both decided it was "over" 8 years ago but stayed for insurance, or until they weren't underwater in their mortgage, or to be roommates, or maybe someone cheated and the other decided it was over, just went through the motions while focused on healing, then when "strong" enough filed for divorce.

So, at "the end," (in this case the finalization of the divorce), he may already have healed up.

There isn't a set standard amount of time anyone "should" wait to enter into a new relationship after a failed one since being ready for a new one could could have contributed to the failing of the last one.

for I know he file the divorce while wife is away,, and for I know they are good couple until he decide he want younger one
#temptation