What can you say about a man who doesn't know how to stand when a terrible chaos happened? He left without me knowing because he's afraid of being in trouble. He preferred the safe side and me, i was the shock absorber. Now he's happy with his new and me im starting to move on but I cant forget everything. Ohlala..

I would not try to figure out why?
He was not for you.
It was not meant to be.
Consider yourself lucky that you found out now as opposed to later.

He was not worthy or good enough for you. Consider it a 'near miss'.. Hhhaaa..' A narrow escape'.

We are responsible for our own happiness. Make yourself happy.
Be good to yourself.

The more you think about him, in ANY way, the more power he has.

Hope this helps. Good luck to you.

Thank you. I'll write this down to remind myself. There are times when I feel like giving in again but i always thought of the pain he inflicted. I have been anxious when he left me just like that. Thank you, Madame :)

Your young, this guy hurt you deep, move on I am sure there are plenty of young men who live near you that would like to meet you. Best of luck to you.

" We love the illusion of what we thought we had "

I woman told me this long ago.
It is so true! I was NOT missing the man, I was missing what I THOUGHT I had with him & what I wanted.

But the reality was.. That sucked.
I stopped missing him real quick !
Because it was not him after all, it was what I created in my head.

When you love yourself again. you will attract a better quality of men.
So find a big stick to beat them off with..hhhaaa.

Hi kalpana

You are not alone . Most of us have been hurt badly by people we love ... not just boyfriends but sometimes family and friends too.

A break up or divorce is like a death in a way and in the end it is more important to make peace with the death instead of question the cause of it.

One day you will feel strong and happy again, but until then , give yourself the gift of time and patience to grief your loss. All of us need time to grieve the death of a dream.

But as Sassy said, be good to yourself as you heal. Do the things you love to do , seek out new exciting hobbies and surround yourself ONLY with people who make you feel good about yourself. The pain you feel may not go away altogether but those good feelings you create will crowd out most of the bad stuff. One day you will enjoy better dreams and realities. :)

Good luck to you

Idk...depends on what exact 'terrible chaos' took place....

I'm afraid of bees.. bears and broads..
The 3 B'zzzzz...ohhhh... its not that type of topic is it??,

broads..beez...bears

oh my

Broads where where
Bees where where

Oh no

I am sorry I guess it would really depend on what type of trouble he was afraid of Law? Parents? Boyfriend? etc... And what type of Chaos we are talking about.



Well I am sorry you got hurt and if he has moved on. You are correct time to let go, grieve, heal and make a new life for yourself.

Of course you can't forget everything, no one can, remember the good times learn from the painful. Grow from the total experience.

Best wishes in your journey

Yep What Rains said

My friend was hurt by her last boyfriend. I suggested she watch Magic Mike and she quickly forgot him.

May I inquire as to how long you were with this man?
Sounds like YOU are now the lucky one.. feel sorry for his new-she's getting the jerk..

Ugly men make it hard for the good guys. Freakin jerks

Not knowing the whole story I don't like to diss someone but come on leaving you to face the danger alone I doubt I would ever trust someone like that.

Relationships are generally not for cowards so you are lucky to see the cut of the cloth before marriage and children and be able to start over with someone more dependable and devoted.

Consider it a blessing in disguise.

Cool profile name rusty. Lol