its kinda, bothering and lonesome, especially when youve reach the age having no one not experiencing things that others with a relationships do,. When your suppose to experience being love, being taken care of.

Feeling lonely and deprived is no fun. The good news is that we get to choose for ourselves when it's the right time to have life experiences. The only age limits to experiencing love and romance are those we impose on ourselves.

No, it takes two. You can't decide to have a relationship with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Same goes for any other 'experiences', there are conditions that need to be met BEFORE you can experience it. If you want to climb a mountain, swim in the ocean, or drive a Ferrari but you are no where near them and can't afford to travel, rent or buy a Ferrari it's not going to happen. You can work towards it and you may or may not get there but it's not going to happen automatically because you want it.

I agree you can want to be part of a couple but if the trend is to use and dump dates then relationships are hardly possible.

indeed you may open yourself up to the possibility of experiencing something

but it does not mean the means will present itself

it will not mean the 'perfect' person will ....poof just appear in your life

I definitely have my days when I feel lonely and isolated like you do.

But loneliness doesn't scare me anymore.


I was once married to a man who was not the right fit for me and you would be surprised to know how ALONE I felt.

You can get a ring from a man. You can get his last name.You can share his bed . You can even have his child.. and still feel ALONE

I am 100 times less lonely now than I was when I was married and that's because I now surround myself with people who cherish me in a way that I didn't feel cherished in my relationship . I also fully engage in all the wonders life has to offer from dance class to hiking to travel and beyond. the world is your playground!

The fact that you are young, lovely and presumably kind and smart, leads me to believe that you are not single because you are desperate.

I suspect that instead of settling for a guy with the qualities you could just live with, you have chosen to wait for a man with the qualities that you CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT.

If that is the case , then I applaud you! You will be way more lonely in a relationship with the wrong person that in a right relationship with yourself .

Love might be right around the corner for all you know. Just keep your heart OPEN. I'm rooting for you. Good luck!

Of course two people are required to form a relationship. My point is that the only definitive deadline to having ANY life experience lies in a coffin. Of course this does not mean that everyone who desires an experience will have it, simply by wishing for it.

The OP seemed to be saying she feels like at her age she should have already experienced a romantic relationship, and hasn't. I heard about a couple in their 90's who were married for the first time, and the woman was a virgin. In my opinion as long as your desire for an experience remains, you have the potential to achieve it, at any age.