Do u still think love still exists cos these days you rarely can find a girl that will love for who you are

Harshly true.

love i.e. fancy word straight out of literary works.

Yes.
This is like asking "do you still think hunger exists?"
Just because people constantly stuff their face, eat McDonald's and call it gourmet doesn't mean their body doesn't function normally.


Why should they.
Most of your life is about becoming someone else.
Your parents teach you to share.
Your parents teach you to not lie.
Your parents teach you to use the potty.
Then you spend 1/3 to 1/4 of your life in school, learning how to think differently, how to act differently, different perspectives.
Then you spend 1/2 to 2/3+ of your life working. Many years working for someone else, being who your boss needs you to be to get the job done.
And that doesn't even address the natural changes your personality goes through from being a baby, to toddler, to preteen, to pubescent, to college grad, to parent, to middle age crisis, to senile.

Your parents don't love you for who you are, they teach you to be different.
Your friends don't love you for who you are, you have to learn how to be in a relationship with them.
Teachers don't love you for who you are, you have to learn how to conform to the classroom.
Bosses don't love you for who you are, you have to conform to the requirements of your job.

...There is no one who will ever love you absolutely or specifically for who you are...why put that onus on women?

At best look for enough tolerance that you don't repulse them.
Otherwise love yourself for who you are, don't apologize for it, and understand that you aren't entitled to love, acceptance, tolerance, or anything. If you can find someone to love you for any reason, value it.


Other than that if you actually believe in the biological process of love you realize that love has little to do with "who someone is."
"Who someone is" at best extends a relationship past it's necessity.

If you believe in the Disney/religious idea of love being a universal magic force that binds creatures in bliss and happy happy joy then love has little to do with "who you are" only how you feel, which you get to ultimately choose.

Either way, you are never as secure in knowing someone as much as you are after you feel love towards them which is always based on your interpretation of who they are as it's relevant to you.

Yes I do believe there is true love, its hard to find but, worth it when you do.

"All noble things are as difficult as they are rare" Spinoza

The things folks like you need to recognize include:

1. Love isn't a thing. You can't buy it in any manner, you can't earn it, you can't quantify it, you can't measure it, and yadda yadda so on.

2. Very important: because love ALSO isn't a payment you are due, from some Great Entity, or Magic Balance in the universe, wailing about how you haven't gotten yours yet will NEVER result in someone somewhere rushing in to ship you what you were supposed to have received last week.

3. The reason why some people say that love shows up when you least expect it, isn't because turning your back on it "works." It's because when you finally gain the experience and understanding required before you can even recognize it, that comprehension will result in you're becoming more attractive to those who have a chance of caring about you.

4. key: you will likely not be able to understand a word I've said above, until and unless you get passed the present state of thinking you're in, and break through to being the person you need to be in order to actually find what you hope for.

Yes love does exist in many forms, shapes and sizes. Unfortunately I've never experienced the type that most people on this site say they are looking for so I just have to take everyone else word that that one is real too.