please explain your answer just looking 4 a good girl with like intrests hopefully close 2 home

I don't think it could work unless both of you like each other in REAL LIFE. I had a ldr with this girl for about 2 years we weren't going out per se but we liked each other. She claimed the entire time to "love" me and couldn't wait to be with me. We met fooled around one time and bam she dumped me. So, a ldr could work but only if you have the real life chemistry. Don't just commit your life to a girl before you meet dude I did that and look how that came out. Try and also meet people by you, you'll be happier at least most of the time with a local girl you can be with more then like once a week and not have to travel hours to see and not have to worry about if the relationship will work out. It's all up to you this is just my choice and decision hope it helps.

thanks it did help

You can probably get some degree of "chemistry" in an online relationship, but I think you cannot know how you will truly react to someone until you meet them and spend some time getting to know them. In my opinion some people should be saying "I Lust You" .... instead of "I Love You". If you already know someone and trying to maintain a long distant relationship..... better have alot of patience, understanding, a whole lot of love for each other, strong trust factor ... and a fat wallet to pay those cell phone bills !

Rainee you can get "chemistry" but if it's awkward in person that chemistry is thrown out the window. I was more comfortable with that girl then a lot of my friends and vice versa and it just didn't work out. Unfortunately online/phone relationships/friendships aren't quite the same as real life ones and sometimes unfortunately the chemistry/feeling doesn't translate well.

Hey guy been there done that it wont work.
Unless she or you are willing to give up
what you have and move. Usually this means
job home and friends and move away from
family.

Thats a real tough thing to do!!!!

Hmmmm .... thought thats what I said
....lol

Destiny... that is all I can say.
There is a song that i listen to everyday....the just of the song is.... you might be 100s or more miles away. you might be just down the street. you've been here forever so clear in my mind. I'll recognize when we meet..... so just take it for what its worth..

if you want it to work and shes is as commited as you are it can work.. you just have to TRUST!!!

best of luck with whatever decision you make!
A~

I think you have to meet in person early on and have that chemistry thing, and then you have to have a solid plan of getting together in the future, as in one of you are going to have to pick up and move, and you can't drag it out for too long...(my opinion)

i would say dont do it. i met this guy online and everything was wonderful. we met.. we went on a trip to florida..start talking about marriage and moving closer.. and all this future stuff. one day he decides that he didnt like the fact that he was missing me.. and he was sooo lonely with the distance.

bunch of crap

i dont know if any of that was true.. but it was a big blower.

my advce..is...dont do it.. find someone closer...but then again

im bitter right now

I'd like to share some thoughts about this too, although I've never had a romantic long distance relationship, but I know a little about it from people close to me who have.

One of my best friends has had one for years. At first he was really crazy about her, finally he's realized (well, I helped him a little) that he had only projected his feelings into this one person on the other side of the globe at the cost of his real social life.
We mustn't forget that this is easily done, surely easier than finding and maintaining a real relationship with the great advantage that this person will never get on your nerves, since she's far far away.

On the other hand there are people who are in loving, committed relationships that are turnt into ldrs by life circumstances. My elder sister for example loves her boyfriend very much and even has a baby with him. But now he's a far away sailor on a cruise ship for half a year. I don't think it's necessary to try and explain how hard this is for both of them, but they can make it work. They have trust, they know they just belong together and they love each other and sure wouldn't do anything to endanger that.

I'm sure I could feel a lot of sympathy and friendship for people I meet online, why else would I be here? But I don't think I could fall in love with someone I've never seen with my own eyes, whose voice I've never heard, who I've never touched or smelled. Friends, good friends, best friends sure but love needs all our senses.

I used to think it could.. but the last time i went ot Iraq it couldnt work for my wife .

More than 2 hrs. away starts getting difficult if the relationship is about true love.

i have a long distance relationship with this woman but she only says stuff like

were sorry sir this line has been disconnected..and when shes really in the mood she says

please deposit fifty cents for the next five minutes....what a babe...

Long distance don't work! How much money and time ya got to waste? Nuff said? Again and again and again and again. This subject pops up every week. Stay down dead horse! You died last week! And the week before. And so on and so on. Oh I give up. Do whatever you want. Freewill. Woo woo.

Only if you BOTH put the effort in it and make it work. Once you doubt, its doomed.

I guess humans can make anything work but the problem comes when one or both decide not to try hard enough.

I personally am not willing to have an LDR unless of course the woman decides to move to me. I know that sounds just horrible but there is just no way I could leave because of my job.

I guess different people have different issues with LDRs and some even like them but I pretty much think its a waste of time to get your hopes up for someone that may never even follow through with a relationship.

Wow that was a long answer for "no I don't think they work very well."

**starts singin dead horses rise again**

Can they work? Yes. Do they work? Well. My experiences, I'll admit, have left me a bit jaded. Or is pragmatic a better emotional result? I think the issue really has to do with whether or not there is a plan in place to take the LDR and make it something more realistic. If two people meet, live a thousand miles apart and both are dead set against moving, then getting in to a relationship at that point is not a good move. If you can't see the end game, you'll likely make yourself and your partner miserable. And if a move is going to occur, who is going to move, and when? Some say that to talk of such things early on is too much--but is it? Again, if you know already that neither party is willing to move or make concessions, why go through the first steps. If step 11 is never going to work, can't we all agree that there isn't much point in steps 1-10?

I know this is how I think and I realize that there are many who might argue that you won't know about step 11 until you work through the first ten. That is, without a doubt a massively valid argument, but relationships aren't theories. They involve people with feelings and those feelings can be damaged if and when people are not on the same page.

Just my .02

Drew

Of course they do not work. You get intimate with a telephone?

They do work when the two (or more) people in question have known each other for a long time, and one of them has to move away for a bit (the military is a classic example of this, but there are consultants, lawyers, etc who do the same thing).

So if you are young and have known that person for a short time, a big NO! If you are settled, have know the person for a long time, then yes.