Loving someone and being fascinated by that person (this is often wrongly called "being in love") are not the same thing!

Loving a person has its foundation in loving one's neighbor. This has nothing to do with feelings. It is an action and it is a commandment of God which must be obeyed without discrimination. Certainly, different bonds (ties) and emotions will form between people according to what they have lived together, but that is not a basis for deciding on who will be one's neighbor and will be loved (Luke 10: 25-37). When one speaks of love, one must reflect on his/her way of practicing the love of his/her neighbor, which is the second greatest commandment of God (Mark 12: 28-31). Failing to love one's neighbor as oneself implies that one is not loving God either, for to love Him is to obey Him (John 14:15).

Of course, healthy emotions will accompany a relationship between a man and his wife, or a man and a woman committed to be married. These will be even strong emotions, including the desire to be joined in the flesh and that is normal. But outside of that context, one reacts and acts under the influence of something else, that is neither healthy nor godly. One comes under the effects of causes that are not mastered, nor questioned, but simply labeled "attraction". Let's see... One "falls" under the influence of something there. Why must one "fall" in love? Why not grow / be erected into a fortress of love, rather? These things are often selfishly directed. One can be "in love", lawfully, of whom is so entitled (i.e. one's spouse or spouse to be). But we should know what we are talking about otherwise when one is said to be "in love". Let's consider a few dynamics that can be observed when we talk about "love" and having "fallen in love" without understanding what's going on in reality, and especially in an atmosphere of lasciviousness, where modesty, dignity, purity and the fear of God are lacking.

Let's define and consider the following:

Fascination (n):
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1. the power or action of fascinating.
2. the state or an instance of being fascinated :
They watched in fascination.
3. a fascinating quality; powerful attraction; charm:

From Latin fascination- (stem of fascinatio) a bewitching

Fascinate (v):
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(with object)
1. to attract and hold attentively by a unique power, personal charm, unusual nature, or some other 2. special quality; enthrall
2. to arouse the interest or curiosity of; allure.
3. to transfix or deprive of the power of resistance, as through terror
4. Obsolete. to bewitch.
5. Obsolete. to cast under a spell by a look.
6. to attract and delight by arousing interest or curiosity
7. to render motionless, as with a fixed stare or by arousing terror or awe
8. (archaic) to put under a spell
(without object)
9. to capture the interest or hold the attention.

From Latin fascinatus, past participle of fascinare to bewitch, cast a spell on, verbal derivative of fascinum evil spell, bewitchment

Charm (n):
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1. a power of pleasing or attracting, as through personality or beauty
2. a trait or feature imparting this power.
3. charms, attractiveness.
4. a trinket to be worn on a bracelet, necklace, etc.
5. something worn or carried on one's person for its supposed magical effect; amulet.
6. any action supposed to have magical power.
7. the chanting or recitation of a magic verse or formula.
8. a verse or formula credited with magical power.

Charm (v):
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(with object)
1. to delight or please greatly by beauty, attractiveness, etc.; enchant:
2. to act upon (someone or something) with or as with a compelling or magical force:
3. to endow with or protect by supernatural powers.
4. to gain or influence through personal charm:
(without object)
5. to be fascinating or pleasing.
6. to use charms.
7. to act as a charm.

From Middle English charme < Old French < Latin carminem, accusative of carmen song, magical formula

Seduction (n):
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1. an act or instance of seducing, especially sexually.
2. the condition of being seduced.
3. a means of seducing; enticement; temptation.

From Latin seduction- (stem of seductio) a leading aside

Seduce (v):
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1. to lead astray, as from duty, rectitude, or the like; corrupt.
2. to persuade or induce to have sexual intercourse.
3. to lead or draw away, as from principles, faith, or allegiance
4. to win over; attract; entice

From Latin seducere to lead aside

And here we enter into the realm of witchcraft, magic, manipulation, where we observe the man that is in control of nothing being pierced to death (Proverbs 7:26), or seducing (deceiving) a woman who lacks wisdom in order to reach his selfish objectives. Immediately, we can say that "seduction" is not something you should count on as a means to get involved in a relationship with someone. Note that a person who is not subject to God will then be at Satan's service against other people; and the first victim, deceived himself/herself is not (generally and hopefully) aware of being used as a tool to advance the devil's agenda on earth). But relationships are the devil's playground to drive people to sin as they are drawn by their own lusts (James 1:14). Such are dead in their sins (Ephesians 2:1). Wake up therefore and understand of what we must be SAVED, why the Lord has manifested Himself among us in Jesus the Messiah, our powerful Savior (Isaiah 43:11; John 1: 1, 14) to turn us from iniquity/sin (John 1: 29; Acts 3:26; 2 Timothy 2:19; Romans 6:23). We must turn away from evil ourselves and free those that are captives (Luke 4:18; Luke 22:32)! That is what the "Good News" is about, not "feel-good", motivational speeches.

Do not walk in darkness.

John 8:12
Then spoke Jesus again to them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that follows me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.

Fear God, Study, Pray, Obey.

Repent if you haven't yet. May the Father grant you to be born again (John 1: 9-13; John 3: 1-13).

To come to life – the life in the Spirit, one must obey the word of God (Acts 5:32), not merely listen to it (James 1:22). One needs to repent and receive the Holy Spirit of God (Acts 2:38; Ephesians 1: 13-14).

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Galatians 5: 19-23
19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; ADULTERY, FORNICATION, UNCLEANNESS, LASCIVIOUSNESS, 20 IDOLATRY, WITCHCRAFT, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

If ANYTHING makes you discern that the authority and leading position of the Holy Spirit of self-control in you is being usurped, you have been hijacked and your house is being broken into (or is on fire). He/she who has ears to hear let him/her hear!

Charm can be deceitful as Salomon asserts (Proverbs 31:30), but not invariably destructive (unlike it seems to have been the case for him). In it's purest form, charm is an intrinsic quality that is akin to desirableness and to suitability for a given purpose as one has judged (let he/she that judges judge wisely). It is not associated with any manipulative force whatsoever. It becomes the natural basis for growing affection and loving-kindness, not playing and being played in a "game". No one suddenly falls "head over heels". God doesn't throw you off balance. Do not be a pawn in a game. Seek the light of life in Jesus to guide you first in your life. Do not proceed into relationships in the darkness of emotions that take you over, but with direction and controlled motion from the Father of lights. May you be richly blessed!

James 1:17
Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.