Its hard when women lie so much

. Self pity does not help.

I always wondered why bisexuals didn't just date preop transgendered.

Seems like it'd fulfill everything.


If someone is bisexual, then does it matter that much?
Just switch to guys?

Then, when you find a guy, you both go and try to find ms right?

This really does not address the issue of lying but then I was thinking about what I have discussed with people of various sexual preference choices and it basically comes down to the person owning the predictable results of their choices.

Choices about sexual preferences often carry certain boundries and limitations. None are perfect. If you are strictly one then you may avoid a few complications but if you betray who you are then you are sacrificing a lot. Really helps to wait until you know exactly what you are before you start experimenting. A lot of people just play at sexual choices and be damn the victims they leave in their paths. It doesn't really mater much if it is traditional or non traditional. That said when you choose an alternative lifestyle then you have to know that is going to come with it's own pluses and more often than not a lot of minuses. Swimming up stream is not for the fait of heart. Why I always recommend if you are going to make choices that might be more difficult you better have the support of friends and dependable people lined up and have some very good life skills.

Which comes back to people knowing when someone is lying to them. Specifically when you have limited life experiences and a smaller culture to draw from. And while bisexuality is not that rare many people do not advertise it and so you may find a limited pool in some places to get support. And many younger bisexual people I have known over the years, even currently have reported actually having less social interaction to have experience to draw from to know when anyone is lying.

Sadly liars are often more masterful in that skill than many want to admit. You can train yourself to look for "markers" and try to be smart but most of us are able to be fooled. A good reason to error on the side of your personal safety physically and psychologically.

People say you have no choice in what you like and who you love but I say we do have a choice and ESPECIALLY, this is key WHEN. That is a LOT EASIER if you don't get yourself up to your neck in hot water by diving right into a relationship by living together and or being sexual before you know the person well enough to really knw their character.

I will say it for about the Basillionth time you will NEVER regret waiting but you will OFTEN regret getting ahead of yourself. IF someone really LOVES you they will wait for years if not longer to let you have a true choice. IF they don't then they are all about themselves not you or you as a couple.

Getting past a liar is like any other "crime" you just have to live and learn and go through the stages of grief. Sorry when this happen to you or anyone else.

op is married to a man, seems that is what she is doing....but unclear is whether or not looking for ms right...or looking for right fit for ms right now

Do you include yourself in that statement?