lmao@laura

hmmmmmmm

CLAUDETTE HAVE YOU FOUND ANY YET

still looking i guess

QUICK I THINK HE'S BACK

You know he is into you when he starts to do some or most of the following;
He emails, calls, or just comes by because being with you feels good.
He shares a concern then tells you how it turned out so you don't continue to wonder.
He leaves you out of petty problems that will resolve themself.
He lets the past go. You don't need to relive hurts with him.
He doesn't kiss and tell about his past so you have to wonder if you "measure up".
He talks about his family or friends.
He tells you jokes, or funny things that happened in his day.
He repeats something you complimented him for saying or doing.
He keeps your confidences.
He remembers when you started talking, your birthday, or something he say in your posts or pictures.
He sends you holiday greetings.
He tells people to say hi to you.
He tells you someone is "playing" you.
He adds PS to his emails even if it is your turn to respond.
He lets something drop if you don't respond to and inquirey.
He doesn't demand more pictures. (So what men are visual. So what a previous bimbo played them. A guy who is into you gets pictures are personal and expensive and he waits until you want to send them.)
He doesn't ask for your phone number or exactly where you live. He cares more for your saftey.
He doesn't need to do a Cheapskate look see date before he talks to you. (Those guys are invariably bullies looking to get laid.)
He doesn't insult you, pick on you, or call you familiar sames you haven't suggested.
He asks if you want his advice on something.
He tells you he is sorry if someone is rude to you.
He doesn't email you twenty times a day or track your online time with your other friends.
He asks you for a chat date and shows up on time.
He waits for you to respond before typing more.
He signs of with a nice fairwell.
He avoids getting smutty on line. Flirty and Sexy is fine a little later on but no cyber questions.
He doesn't drink alcohol or leave you to smoke while you are talking on line.
He puts on clothes before he turns on the web cam. Yea you have probably seen more on the beach but it is just polite to put on a shirt and cover up the underwear at least until you have dated and seen his stuff in person.
He shows you an interesting website about one of your interests.
He sends you and e-card.
He asks you if he could ask you out and when would be a good time to talk about it.
He tells you his real name and offers a reference about himself. Maybe he doesn't tell you his home address but he at least sends you a current photo and a zipcode. (Information you should always leave with a third party and not necessarily on your computer.)
He plans a safe public place for a nice first date. Doesn't have to be expensive but shouldn't come off as an interrogation and it should not be overly demanding on you financially. If you have kids he should thank you for setting aside the time and money from your responsibilities to them.
He shouldn't monoploize so much of your time that you are exhausted for work or to drive safely.
He should pay for the date. Yea yea I know about womens lib and being fair but this is the real world it shows respect. If he can't afford a modest date then he needs to get financial counseling and you don't need him.
He calls after the date and says he got home so you don't worry and so he knows you are safe. Yea adults date but it is just an act of concern and respect.
After the date he tells you Thank you and why he had a nice time. If he can't communicate at least that he wasn't into you only the date.
He calls and sees you know there is a traffic jam or you got home if weather is bad as he knows you better.
He avoids taking you to dangerous places. If there is a risk involved he doesn't plan on being the only hero.
If you go somewhere to do something he makes sure you have saftey equipment that fits.
He stammers and looks at his feet with his hands in his pockets rather than say something stupid. Even when you ask for it.
He tells you YOU LOOK GOOD. Accept it graciously and don't say he is wrong or crazy.
He asks the waitress to give you whatever you need. Or he orders for you so it is ready when you are hungry and in the bathroom washing up. Or he brings it on the date.
He will stand near you if there is only one seat. Or behind you if the seat has no back.
He takes you to a stadium he holds your hand as you walk up the steep stairs.
He brings a blanket if it is cold or gives you his coat.
He notices if you are struggleing to keep up, tireing, or need to go home.
He gives you options that respect your abilities.
He dances with you even if he doesn't dance well or really hates it.
He tells you that you are a good dancer even if you are not. If your not he coaches you in private.
He dances the slow songs with only you even if he does dance with others.
He trys to open the door for you.
He doesn't smoke around you; or quits smoking for you.
He checks the oil in your car, fixes your broken window, or buys you a calling card or bus pass just in case.
He lets you out at the door and parks when it is raining.
He makes sure you are insured.
He sells the motorcycle because being around in one peice suddenly doesn't sound so wimpy any more.
He lets you sleep if you fall asleep in his arms.
He remembers how you like your coffee or your favorite soda.
He pays the babysitter.
He lets the dog out or changes the cat box.
He asks you to do ordinary stuff in-between dates not instead of a date.
He brings over pet food, diapers, or Midol.
He wears a condom so you don't get pregnant while you are in school, in the middle of peak season at your job, or so you are throwing up on your honeyingmoon.
He calls and tells you he is going to work overtime to get his bills paid up so you can start with a clean slate.
He brings you flowers or candy or anything "girly".
He tolerates being around your friends or relatives that are a pain.
He keeps your relationship private from the Ex and her friends. If you meet them or know them he gives you a heads up and makes a proper introduction.
He has past or current "relationship" drama he makes a point of keeping you out of it.
He doesn't take you to "their" spot even it is his favorite spot.
He takes down the pictures of the Ex or the ex's family or at least moves them to the kids room. At least out of his bedroom.
He makes his friends "clean up their act" around you.
He watches his and his kid's language. If he has a problem that you "slip" he tells you in private.
He excuses you from situation where he is about to disciplineing his kids. Or he takes them to a seperate place. (He doesn't respect you or them makeing it public.)
He comes to and understanding of what basic house rules are and abides by them.
He doesn't chime in and down your kids absent parent to your kids no matter how tough it makes life on him. He trys to distract you from doing the same.
He asks you clearly to define what you want from him in regards of your children and he does it.
He tells your kids to mind you, help you, or help him plan a nice time for you.
He maybe buys your kids stuff occasionally but he doesn't try to buy them.
He is pleased even respectful if your grandma, or your brother, or your kids tell him to treat you right.
He buys you something you need for your personal space. Not a tv, a hot tub, or a cell phone.
He is glad to take pictures of you together but they are respectful. Men record their mistresses whoo hoo not their girlfriends and potential wives.
He buys you nice jewlery; not with his name on it but maybe your kids.
He buys you gloves, a coat, snow shoes, or extra work uniform.
He buys you lingere don't freak out especially if it is cute or a little expensive, or the wrong size. Least he thinks you are sexy to him. He will only give it to you in private.
He goes to a funeral or wedding with you so you don't have to go alone.
He plays your favorite music sometimes.
He brings you soup when you are sick.
He stays at the doctors office or the ER room with you and you and your family no matter how long it takes.
He will go to the library and or get a book so you can make good grades.
He will repair something that must be fixed even if it means missing the final touchdown.
Ok ya all if that doesn't give you a headache reading you have better glasses than I do. HUGS

HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM...I don't know anymore...Guess I have to be hit on the head and told straight out or something stupid like that!!!!!!!!!

<--------clueless.......last guy to pat me on the back or give me a hug is in his 70's, and kinda my boss, so I'm sure he mean't nothing by it. He's always calling me kiddo

On a serious note: they may do all or some of those things to get your attention, but will they do them to keep your attention? I haven't found one that will or does.

No knights in shining armor for me!

Im still waiting for the headache from the hammer hitting............

ive tried the being flirty and hinting thing, but never had much luck, so now i just try and say it flat out. although i have to work up a lil nerve first

WOW! Bookworm....that was exhaustive, and a whole lot of information....what guessing game???

The man shows respect!!

As should the woman.

Thanks!

P.S. Most of what I write you can put a She in front of. Haveing been eventually quite happily married and raise sons who are good husbands you can see I set high standards. But most of my remarks come from years of listening to people who screwed their own lives up by not practicing them and then turning their lives around by practiceing them. You all have the potential to be fabulous successful people. In fact ignoreing some of the whineing I think most of you are really above the mark. Never ever EVER give up on yourself or the ability of someone to live up to your expectations. Reward good behavior and you will get it back ten fold.

wow that was a lot to take in thanks for sharing

Hugs

Sounds great other than the bit about the bike.

never really had it in person, online only LOL

I know if someone is interested in me without physical gestures. He probably come online very early and start typing, "hello, are ou there?"


{{{Claudette}}}}

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Yeah

My sweetie says HELLO to all my friends here

You ladies don't make it easy for us guys either. Talk for a day or two and.... Where did you go! Oh yeh, where are the guys thread!

Usually when I'm interested in a girl, I will do something sexy like pick my nose or maybe scratch my ass.