Only if you have a permit.


I want mandatory IQ & psych evaluations & health screenings & mandatory vasectomy for all men with 2 or more offspring.

Let's clean this world up .
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No, I could not. We are married - we share, we are partners, we are together. To have a separate relationship (physical or emotional) without me tells me that she doesn't love me as much as I thought she did.

If this is a curiosity thing, or she discovered she was bi and wanted to experiment... that is fine, but she should WANT to include me in it (even if it was only watching from a video monitor in another room) due to our commitment and vows to one another.

This isn't like a girls/guys night out - a sexual relationship is an intimate one even if it is purely physical - emotions will eventually develop and a certain level of care, love, and feelings will get involved - and the person's spouse SHOULD be a part of the experience.

...but this is just me.

No way

I would never allow it.

Not now days with all these diseases you can get.
There's no morals.

I would not let the woman move in if I had a wife and she did that to me I would say you made your bed now you and the other woman can go live somewhere else and leave me out of it !!!!!. I'm a one woman man and that's that.!!!

Camels nose in the tent.

Been there, tried appeasement. Never again.

So you're saying my wife wants to have a live in female lover..hmm.. two women to cook and clean for me win win... as long as I can watch them making love I'm good..

not sure if it should be mandatory
but the psych eval, IQ test and the big V would earn brownie points in my book

if the relationship didn't include me in some capacity then no freaking way...if I was to be included that answer may change lol.


But what I'd read from the situation is "hey honey, I found someone I care about, but I'm really comfortable here, I like your money and the things you provide for me, so I don't want to leave, oh and you should support my friend to, because I want to pretend im taking care of her oh and I'll ne spending less time in bed with you, so now you'll be paying twice as much and losing fringe benefits at the same time"....umm no thanks

I have had a few relationships with bi females, one even let me watch though I wasn't ever in the room, and didn't participate in any way. It was poetry in motion, and something that I will always remember as a beautiful moment in my life. I have never revealed to friends that it happened, and would never reveal her secret to anyone, even though we parted many years ago.
Any male who believes that simply because they don't agree with something, then it won't happen, is deluding themselves. If a female wants the experience then she will go and get it, with or without approval. Better to embrace a partner for who they are, and who they always have been, than live in a world of denial.

Not my style... if my woman wants more then what is in my pants... then by all means go out and find yourself.. but you can't come back.

exactly..

I don't believe I would be able to stick around in that situation the OP discusses.

I sure hope this isn't really about you because after taking a long look at your picture I'm definitely in love!

But anyway, yeah, if the husband is good with it then the marriage was over already and he's just hoping to get into a good old sandwich situation. If the kinky stuff doesn't materialize and he's got a babe on the side then he'll be moving in with her right after he spends a night on the couch and his wife and Ellen go at it all night in HIS bed.

Hmm... I really have to say Blondey, in this case your wish is my command!

I would think it is more likely the man not wanting to have the wife take off with the kids and have them living in a two female situation he is supporting with a fat alimony check. He has probably known she was "too friendly" with her Bestie for years and just hopes if they actually live under his roof the visiting one will get sick of the wife and take off in a huff.

Actually, there's a very practical and rather fundamental aspect to this, that has little to do with emotions or perceptions of each person's value.

It's a matter of conflicting commitments. Whenever two people form an official union of some kind, be it marriage or a business partnership or anything else, as soon as they form ANOTHER such arrangement, their time and loyalties are of necessity divided.

Who is putting what fleshy protuberance into whom, isn't the most egregious concern. Being able to count on each other at all times, is. And when loyalties are divided, there is no way to build a life together on a firm foundation.

Therefore for me, if a woman wants to have a husband and a wife, so to speak, I wont be the husband. But I would have no problem being the next door neighbor, or the friend who lives down the street. I'm not going to make ALL of my life dependent on someone else who is only going to make PART of theirs available to me.

Tricky don't think I would like it much lots of men will be thinking oh great a 3 way but looks like you not satisfying her enough sexually.
To keep the marriage going might go along for a few weeks to see how things develop.

But never been married all had kids so it's all strange to me.

meh.. two's company, three's a crowd - always somebody left twiddling their thumbs.. I would be OUT..

Yeah would need another women so nobody left twiddling.