I've had a relationship past actually. (Which is extremely painful for me today) and he said that I'm too overly attached. But he's wrong, I did things to constrict him because his health is at risk. What are your ideas?

Edited:
We started together happily. When he entered college, He started becoming more clingy to his peers which influenced him to drink that is not allowed for him. We gave him the freedom to do what he wants but he abused it then I stepped forward to compromise the situation by talking to his friends which made him very mad. We've been staying together until our breakup.

I think for getting good answers you need to elaborate more about the exact situation...

How is he wrong...?....latter you are saying you did those things....!!

IMO you are deeply concerned about him.

I think you aren't asking the right question of the right people.

Since we live in a world where no one is permitted to directly control another who is not their child, it doesn't matter what anyone else's opinion is, as to whether or not you are behaving in a clingy manner. And it does not matter whether or not your judgment as to your friend's behavior is sound or not.

The only thing that matters for situations such as this, is the mechanisms of your relationship, and how you and he use them. He wants to behave one way, and you want him to behave another. Only he is in charge of himself.

What I think he is actually trying to get across to you, is that no matter how much you think you care about him, that will never translate to giving you ANY right to tell him how to live his life. If you don't understand and accept that, then perhaps you don't so much love him, as you want him as a sort of pet to please you.

You must choose to care for and about someone for who and what they actually are, in this world, or not. That is what love is. Otherwise, you are applying for a job as a caretaker or life coach, and not as a lover.