I've had this male friend since about May. We talk daily, and over time, I have developed some majorly strong feelings for him. I was brave, and told him how I felt, he said he was not interested in any relationships at that time. I totally understood, and let him know that he was one of the best friends that I could have, and I didn't want to lose his friendship, I just felt I needed to tell him and not hide it. I didn't want any drama or games basically.

Since then, we have been even greater friends, and are totally there for each other 150%.

This whole time he has had this woman who was a FWB, well recently, he has found out that she had been lying to him for 6 months, and she is actually married. He is crushed and now hates the world, and anything female.

I know he wants/needs his space right now, but how do I let him know that I am still his friend and care about him, but give him his space too.

He has been hurt so many times in the last year that this major force field has gone up and he's not letting anyone in.

I'm not hurt that he is like this towards me, but I am hurting because my best friend is.

anyone got any ideas for anything that I can do for him?

All you can do is let him know you will always be there for him, no matter what he goes thru.

It sounds like more than ever, he'll need every bit of the friendship you've developed and built with him. That doesn't mean you can save him from what he's going through or that he'll rethink his feelings for you (though he may) only that you mentioned that you are both there for each other 150%. That is awesome and he's lucky to have you in his life.

Good luck,

Drew

thanks you guys... I'm just afraid that he's lost trust in me too.

Would it be corny to send him flowers?

That would be cool,go ahead and send them,i had a girlfriend send me flowers once,he will enjoy it.

everyonce in a while he'll mention he's never gotten any before, maybe that was a subtle hint to me lol

hey you can send me flowers i never get any just kidding

thanks for the smile coco! I'm still hopin to get them too... The only time I ever got them is when someone would mess up and was trying to cover it up! Oh and one year for my birthday when my ex was in Iraq. I was proud of him for remembering me.

I dont think he had those kinds of feeling for her, he is just the type of person who doesnt want to mess with a female who is in any kind of relationship. Over the summer, I started dating a guy and we didnt have a falling out, but he backed off while I gave that relationship a try. He didnt want to interfere in what might have been by "stealing" my attention away from my ex. I do the same for him, it just saves problems.

Just keep being that friend you have always been and go ahead and send him his flowers. Good luck to you and ur friend

sorry for what happened to your friend. just continue to show him what a "best friend" really is.

he's feeling better today, but still down on himself. thank you all!

My suggestion: Do nothing romantic. Grab some beer/soda, a pizza and a GUY movie and then show up at his place. Make sure it's a guy movie. I would suggest "The Dirty Dozen" since it has no romance whatsoever. If you flirt with or hit on him, it's possible that he will lose his trust in you. Good luck.

hmmm... i never thought about that...

glad i didnt send he flowers yet!