Does anyone online every really meet? I've had lots of promised meeting and not one ever showed up.

they r called scammers just wount your money

YES

I have met 4 women in real life from free dating sites.

Let me warn you that only one was even close to her picture.

None of them were accurate in their profile or the things we messaged about (Why I am still looking)

It happens.

Meet in a public place
*a coffee shop
*a gallery
*a place where you can see her coming or notice her right way.

If you click with her be a gentleman and offer to pick up the tab.

Use her real name a lot.

Talk about the things you messaged about.

Don't bring up past relationships
Don't push sex talk
Be Yourself.

If you think it just won't work - let her know and be gentle
If it is working offer a walk or a drive to move the meet into personal territory.

Keep your hands under control

Pay attention to what she says and be in the moment.

Some ommissions and 'white lies are to be expected. Don't be too crittical but keep your judgements wise.

Scan the meeting area for other people watching her. There are scammers that try to get you alone so their male counterparts can rob you. Be aware of your surroundings.

I know people that have found their someone special and they are now married. It does happen and it can work - If you are both honest and interested in each other.

Good Luck!

Met a few frogs, no prince charming yet.

meet 2 in person
both looked like there pictures

dated one for 3 1/2 years

best wishes on your hunt