. I personally can’t stand the fact that I can’t just walk up to someone and say, ‘Hi. . Wanna be great friends?” Why not? We’re all people. . If I think I want you to be my friend, why can’t I just tell you so? Who made up these unspoken rules? I don’t see the need to beat around the bush. It frustrates me. But because my ideal world isn’t socially acceptable . I start off with random,casual conversation and take it from there.

how charming

the copy and paste is strong in this one

give the Guy a break,English isn't likely his First Language!

thx . i need u know that i have doctoral degree .

Well, you can actually go up to somebody and say, "Hi. Want to be great friends?" Also, "I've got a doctoral degree." They might think that you're a nutter and say no thanks and that means that they don't want to live in your world but they might be alright with you being a bit weird and consider being friends with you.

Just don't try to tap them for a loan straight away.

yes , u r right

Kids do that. They walk up to another kid they've decided they want to be friends with and say it. It's great to be a kid, eh? :)

Most adults, however, have too many hidden agendas, are too psychotic or plain wacko. I think it's nice when someone wants to be friends with you straight up, but it's not really that simple anymore.

Good luck, though. :)

Good to see someone else noticed.

... this isn't the thread you're looking for.


Sorry...back to topic....Yes, it WOULD be nice to do that. I agree we ARE all adults and just say what you mean. However, like someone already said, peeps HAVE agendas sometimes and we tend to be careful when someone steps into our comfort zone and asks us to step out of it.

Much anger have you.....to the dark side you go must!

There are social boundaries because we live in a dangerous world. One has to be very careful with strangers and friends. Lots of evil people in this world

are you trying to get high honorsin ppsychology or sociology classes?

a lot of your questions sound like essay questions for a term paper. if you use my ideas please let me know if the professor gives any feedback

You have misidentified the problem.

"Boundaries" have nothing to do with it. They are like physical features of the planet: you discover them as you move around and try to do stuff, and then you adjust accordingly.

And you certainly CAN just walk up to people and say hello, and whatever else you want to say.

The only thing you CAN'T do, is demand that everyone behave as you imagine they would in a world designed around you.

The way it actually works is this: you figure out who and what you are, and then you act accordingly. When someone reacts, you ACCEPT that reaction, whatever it is, as an indicator of who and what THEY are. You leave people alone who don't like who or what you are, and you put in more time with the ones who do.

You remind me of a friend I had a loooong while back, who wailed to me (after driving her mate away by screwing around with someone else) that "the world doesn't have to BE this way!! People should be okay with each others mistakes and failings!"

I was just far along enough myself by then, that I was able to council her that yes, indeed, the world doesn't have to "be this way." However, since the world IS "this way," your option is to participate and cooperate and adjust to it, or find another world.

So what's your choice? Continue wailing about how things ought to be, or accept the way they are and look for the best you can find in it all?

No one does unless the boundaries are protecting them.
Boundaries work two ways, though, they aren't solely a hindrance.

People want to walk up to the hottie and say "hi! Let's get to know each other!" without fear of judgment and a guarantee of a positive response.

But when a homeless person walks up smelling like someone died saying "Hi! Gimme some money..." it's all "ignore them, don't look at them, they'll go away, I wish they'd stop always asking me for money


Everyone that ever came before you through figuring out what worked for them.


I find it ironic that you said/typed/plagiarized this.

If you didn't beat around the bush then you just walk into the bush and the lion or snake gets you.
Beat around the bush so you know where the danger lies.
Beat around the bush so the pheasant or bunny you want comes out of the bush and makes it easier to catch.

Beating around the bush helps you.

Softly softly catchy monkey.