Well, I wouldn't know the answer to that last question because I will never have a ****buddy.

Well, I'll answer it for you. The answer is no. People that have a FWB can indeed do that and go out and meet someone that they do want a relationship with, just like someone in an unhappy marriage can meet someone else before they get divorced.

Just like everything else in life, this isn't black or white, but a gray area. It's like, having a friend of the opposite sex, is that okay, sure, but if your married, ?. Casual dating, does sex occur after the date? Is that okay? Or does that become a FWB situation. And is that still considered casual dating. Or it could be serious dating, but then abruptly ends, because one of the two is no longer interested in you but someone else. Shoot, even happens to married folks, one looses interest and wonders. So maybe marriage is one big casual date?

I love NSA relationships.They are very cheaper and by far less stressful than committed or serious relationships. A wife cost an arm and a leg these days along with a big bag of stress

Well, I think that if you look at my profile it says that I'm open to meeting somebody new and that I don't want to be too fixed in my ideas about what sort of woman that I want to date. Also, that I'm open/ undecided about having kids.

Women are going to read what they want into it. Maybe they think, "This guy would date a slut, so that's all he's looking for." Yeah. Well, certainly I'm a horny guy, so if you're the prim and proper type we're not really compatible. I'm not writing a load of cheesy drivel on my profile about how I'm seeking my soulmate. May as well say that I'm looking for someone that can cook and clean. Bollocks to listing my preferences as if they are non negotiables.

Only if you want something serious with them though. That's what I'm saying.

It's possible that you may feel that you do somewhere down the line but you're not bothered about that because they're not relationship material. It's someone that isn't what you're looking for in a partner. Could be somebody that you like spending time with but couldn't live with. It's someone that could be saying that they're just a no strings sort of person. Maybe they say that they like male company but don't want to wash a man's socks and cook his dinner for him. There could be lots of reasons why you wouldn't want a serious relationship with somebody that you might want a casual relationship with.

Point is that it's short term satisfaction against disappointment only if you want it to be more than it is. If it can't be more than it is and you're not happy with it anymore you move on. You finish it.

The problem with dating someone that only wants casual.. when you yourself what something more.. is the other person is always looking for the next bigger better thing to come along... yes yes at first you tell yourself you're okay with this.. but then when you are out on a date and they are always flirting with other people.. can get a bit annoying not to mention the damage it does to your own ego..oui

Totally true that... If you can live with the knowledge that you are just "passing time" for them I suppose it's ok, but who wants to be someones clock? lol

Well, when you talk about them always flirting with other people when you're out on a date that's talking about it a bit like you're actually a couple.

Do you go out to parties with them and mix with their social circle? Do you want to meet their friends and do they want you to meet their friends, given that you're just their dirty little secret? Who are they going to flirt with when you're out on a date with them? The waiter? Taxi driver? Why do you care anyway? You're the one that's banging her and you can tell her that if that's not good enough for her then she can go and try and find somebody that will do it better.

hmm,, flirting with other people while out on a date someone? How rude and in very bad taste..
I see no problem in dating a few different persons, having a good time and conversation doing something both enjoy.

What is the definition of dating anyway? does it half to involve sex and/or foreplay?

I don't ask one of my friends to do some outings with me because she can't walk very far, so I ask someone that can..and I don't ask that someone to come along when I go to a sportsbar to watch a ballgame because they don't care about that..
Now, if I ever get a date .... it might be different than a f**k buddy..
just sayin

there it is

for ts casual dating is all about the sex not the date

Well no. A casual date for me wouldn't have to be all about the sex. That's not all that I like to do on a date and I like talking to women. A friend with benefits is somebody that you have a friendship with, however superficial it might be.

However, they can't have it both ways if they're saying that they don't want to get involved. If they don't want a relationship with you then they can't expect you to be their boyfriend when it suits them and just a guy that they have sex with when it doesn't. That's when you get into a one sided relationship where they're getting it all their own way. They don't want to be your wife or girlfriend. They don't want to meet your parents. They've got their own life and you've got yours. When you get together you do whatever but if they've told you that they just want a casual relationship you're not courting them and trying to see how you work together as a couple.

And I wouldn't call it a date if it was just being friends without benefits. If I had a female friend that I wasn't romancing she would be just that; a friend and nothing else.

you contradict yourself ^^^^^^ all in one post

No Strings Attached
Friends with Benefits
Casual Dating
Casual Hook ups

all terms that can get thrown in together
rather synonymous in my opinion

as far as I can tell
ya can call it a Friend with benefits
but really just means a **** buddy


oh and yes there are people who for one reason or another
prefer this route
no emotional committment

or there are some who have a casual fling once in awhile
while waiting for the real thing to come along

now see there i beg to differ trish

because i think you can date with out the "happy ending"

though the other three are yes all different names for the same thing



trish you have been studying way to hard lately you need a break. get your boots and skirt on i am taking you to dinner and then to the barn dance...... smooch good night i hope you enjoyed the night away from studying


see

isn't that just a date?
what if I enjoyed the barn dance so much
and the glass or two of punch you brought me
that I crawled up on your lap on the way home
convinced ya to pull off on a side road

would that now become a casual hook up?

if we aren't exclusive then casual fits as a decriptive

isn't that just a date?
what if I enjoyed the barn dance so much
and the glass or two of punch you brought me
that I crawled up on your lap on the way home
convinced ya to pull of on a side road

would that now become a casual hook up?



not if i can persuade you to think and act that way more often

You didn't say how I contradicted myself there Eric.

I'll try to explain it in simple terms to you, without trying to brag about my sexual exploits, or just repeating myself pointlessley.

It's someone that we're assuming for the sake of argument, as stated in previous posts where I tried to explain to you what sort of person they are, isn't looking for a relationship or just friendship. Now, you can try to work out however you like what you're getting inbetween that but it's someone that wants sex and assuming that they're a woman they aren't just going to drop their drawers for you until there's been a bit of foreplay first.

I really don't want to be a patronising git here but I'm talking about the stuff that you do on a date before you take your clothes off and that being fun and not just a formality. It's like entertaining a lady isn't just about getting your knob out and it might even be fun and make the bit where you do get your knob out more fun and not get you arested.