SO , I was raised to find out the job thats expected , go do it , and go home

I was not raised to socialize or use the workplace to socialize on someone elses dime


but more and more I experience this ridiculous EXPECTATION to be social at work,, like they are hoping to have gossip mills and grapevines for people to be inside other peoples business,,, and this is very hard for me to do (at work)...I only want to do what you claim to be paying me for

but, I am repeatedly pulled aside for what I consider a very distorted version of critiicizing an employees 'attitude',, you know? what they used to call insubordination, talking back, complaining about assignments, doing inferior work and giving not effort towards improvement,,


except my crime is none of these,,,,mine is being too 'laid back',,,

yes, repeatedly employers pull me aside to complain about how I dont seem to 'reach out' and 'participate' with the other employees,,,,

Im sorry, do they sign my check? is this a playground? I thought I Was hired for a job,,,,,


it seems like a catch 22, if they dont see enough EMOTIONAL sharing and get enough insight into my business i am not being a team player, but if they were to get my emotions and my business, than Im sure Id be viewed as one of those with an 'attitude',,,,


why the push to make workplaces this 'social' event? I dont get it,,,,


and this is one of many reasons I am committed to find a way to work for MYSELF,,,,


rant over :)