There is one tool to handle stress is YOGA.It is a holistic approach towards the negative stress.It gives u mental strength,patience,perseverance etc to deal with it.And also we v to establish the family institution which we v broken coz family is the most stress buster thing besides family friends are also stress buster.A friend cn b ny1

op I use to think if under pressure I was very good with that kind of stressful situations...
not anymore ... I can go right off becouse of some of my health issues ... if put under stress ... I do better with something if not put under stress and will even do more then I am expected to if not pressured ... I use to do meditation to relieve stress and worked when I was younger ... but not now ... my system has changed a lot ... and feel I am under stress a lot ... but not to much anyone can help me with ... so I don't say anything either ... but in looking at some of these situation that have been happening... people get so out of it an stressed they do something to harm someone or them selves ... snapped is a good word for it ... can come on like a light switch is flipped and go right off just as fast ... really don't believe anyone can be helped with this kind of insanity when they have hurt their selves or others ... just happens in them and snap ... maybe the only way to know is a head scan... but they may not tell you anything either... good stress and bad ... who's to say one day that good stress turns into bad as u get older ...

Great topic.

I think stress is just a part of life and sorting out the good stress from the bad is the one of the BIG challenges.

Getting older I am lucky that I am getting better at seeing the wisdom in some advice I thought was horse pucky when I was younger. The whole ditty "And this too shall pass." makes more sense. As does just out live the arseholes. lol That I was blessed to get to know and understand my Dad's perspective that "sometimes surrender is really survival or ignoring someone until you have the power to fight back if you still even want to bother."

That and keeping the skills and resources alive to deal with the bad stress that we do identify.

For me finding balance in my life between the "got to's" and the want to's is harder as the realities of age/health and income seem to just take more effort I find some of the want to's do make the got to's more tolerable. Example it is hotter than the gates of help in Cali right now so I will spring for a cab for shopping but still include a movie since cabin fever gets old quick.

And I am taking a Senior stress reduction class and learning some great ideas. The teacher is hilarious and passed everyone out little keys that said crazy land on them. Her lesson for that was You have to deal with crazy people but you don't have to give them the keys to drive you there. Is that priceless or what?

OMG no1phD don't tell the kiddies we still.... use some of the tried and true methods. ROFLMBO

Well apparently the secret safe with you and me lol

True all this. Even for old bones like mine the yoga is really helping. Course I am on the really simple stuff.

Did stress add to the silver-white hairs on your head? Ive been getting more...

LOL I like to tease my "kids" that they made me grey but I started getting grey hairs long before I had kids. I think it is just part of the process of life.

I would not color it because that really starts a vicious cycle and makes the hair more fargile rather than silky and soft like mine is now I am letting it be what it is. To me it looks pretty silly to put a twenty year old color on a sixty year old face.

I have found the people who accept you as you are are always way better companions.

FYI you learn that just because there is snow on the roof does not mean there is not fire in the furnace. lol

I haven't got any at the moment, but im thinking in the next month all my blonde hair will turn grey through stress.

For me, the stress I find the hardest, is when you cant turn your back and you have to face what's happening and coming and there's nothing you can do to stop it and you have no control over it, well apart from topping yourself that's the only way out.

That really isn't a option, it would only be if I lost my compassion for other people. That's never happened to me, despite the darkest times I've been through, I've always put others before myself.

Doctors have criticised me for this when I've been in hospital myself as a patient because other patients turned to me for help because I could understand them and the staff couldn't. They were right to a degree because I put them before me and I wasn't getting much better, but they were. But that's me and I don't think I could be any other way even if I tried, BUT I would never want to be any other way. That's makes me, me.

The people who truly understand and get it, are the people who have been there themselves. I don't care how many text books doctor's read or how high up they are etc, they will never understand to the extent of people who have been there.

During my nursing career, I would never say ''I understand'', because how can I when I have never been there. I just did everything I could for them and understood as much as I possibly could and I only could imagine their pain and what they were going through . Saying I understand to patients when I haven't been there, would in my opinion make me a hypocrite, trying to understand is the best anyone can do. I always found patients really appreciated that, than someone making out they fully understand when they cant if they haven't been there.


But if I ever lost my compassion/empathy for others, I wouldn't want to be in this world anymore because I wouldn't be 'me' anymore. That would be the end for me. Loosing my soul, my compassion, to me is the WORST thing that could happen to me, over everything I have been through. Im glad I've NEVER once lost that for others and I pray I never do.

Even if I totally gave up on myself ( which I have at times) that's ok, as long as I NEVER loose my compassion, empathy for others.

Hard to talk about something you don't have...get a fishing pole and go on a creek bank in the shade of a big oak tree. It will quickly melt away

Stress is a biochemical reaction to things that are "stressful". Originally, stress was a signal that you were about to be eaten so it was time to run. Stress increased your heart rate, caused adrenaline to be pumped onto your blood, and caused your brain to focus ... usually on "fight or flight".

If you didn't run fast enough you got eaten and the problem was solved. If you got away, your chemistry gradually went back to normal without ill effects. In today's world the causes of stress sometimes don't go away and cause our bodies to remain "stressed" which can lead to general health and mental problems.

Exercise is a good and natural way to relieve stress. It tricks your body into thinking "I got away" and sends the chemistry back to normal.

Sex is another good stress reliever. I am not sure if it works the same way as exercise but it certainly seems to work!

Lol...thinking about my whites...
Have you ever noticed that if you pull one out, 4 or 5 sprout out almost immediately to replace that one strand??? Gah!!!
Maybe i should just bleach my hair platinum blonde....lol..

I have a lot of stress in my life. Other people looking at my life would say that I should have no stress at all. I remember a few years back, I told a guy that I want and need to simplify my life. He said, "your life couldn't be more simple". The way he said it, he was mocking me. I feel that I have a really low stress level. I can't help that. Right now I am dealing with rodents eating up my car engine, looking for a new mechanic, looking for a place to live, deciding on If should show any interest in some men in my life, thinking of moving far from here, maybe putting all my efforts into living in a tiny house. I have to do all this alone, so that is stressful.

Exercise and sex?...Have you ever tried bacon-flavored chocolates?

A cat could easily solve that meaw








You're welcome over to my place anytime









Yes you should









That's a great idea, i am quite far away








I don't do tiny houses baby










Do you??

I feel as if I'm alone.

Well would you rather be unknown?

Stress
What is that?
Is it a kind of cookie?
I don't have stress
u only have stress if u obsess about something and need perfection on it.
Everything needs to be solved.
Question is, does it?
Every tiny thing has a silver lining to it. If u believed in that, you'd never stress at anything
just know that there is a reason something happens
a much bigger picture than u ever imagined
stay calm always
And live life to the fullest!!!
Meoww

Oh how I do wish that the crap could be choked out of some. But that is against the law.

I like cats a lot. I find that many guys don't like cats. I want to be able to travel, so I'm not wanting pets now. I have not found any guys that want to travel with me so I don't know what to do about that.

Hold my hand then ..real tight baby & we shall travel as far as the eyes can see