This is my view on the whole thing “joy” was brought to our attention not long ago followed by a “problem” later. How do we react to that? Be happy and feel bad with the sudden outcome. Yes, not our business but when it is put out on an open forum like JSH, it is open for public ridicule. When did the drama started? It started when it was put out to the world.

Most, naturally support, it’s a nice thing to do. Yes, we are family no matter who you are out there. We share the site.

But, if one feels the need to leave because of an overwhelming feeling powered by this so called thing dubbed as drama. How should one define drama and who are the drama ones?

Writing a thread announcing to the world, “LEAVING JSH” and adds, “I'll give it another week... and see how things go...” and then this, “However, there is too much drama filtering through... and I choose to eliminate it, so... I'm considering leaving the site.” …………Is that saying, we are not good enough to respond, we are scums because we naturally support and care even question what happened to understand better the sudden change. Beats me! Nothing to do with me either. But, I see the creator of the issue in this superficial post. It’s not always about the bad guy, it is looking at our own behaviour and what we define as the issue.

Personally, if I want to leave and I think I am just it, I delete my account and leave. Good riddens to me! Creating and seeking sympathy is drama in itself.

Well, that’s my input to the thread, …better to be honest, right? I know I will not lose sleep tonight, no matter what!

We are adults and we are responsible for our action either online or offline!

I meant not to attack anyone here. It does however, seem to me that (SOME) who know nothing of me or situations feel the need to send emails and post things all over the place - NEGATIVELY- at that, drawing deductions before having all of the facts. Because 1 person sent up a red flag and cried about it... EVERYONE involved started telling me my guy was no good and my guy was a liar... etc... and I started to believe it because I couldn't get a hold of him... and you know- that was MY ERROR- but I wanted to talk to him and find out exactly WHAT had happened before I made a final judgment call.
Turns out, he was visiting his kids. He hadn't seen them in awhile and he went to where they live an hour away. He'd forgotten to send an email to tell me he'd be gone.

I do love this site, however, there are a few SELF-RIGHTEOUS people who make it difficult. I get that in times of crisis we stand by our friends... and I'm glad this individual who initially sparked all the crap had those friends to help out... I EVEN TOOK THE STEP TO SAY I WAS SORRY THAT SOMETHING I HAD DONE HAD INDIRECTLY HURT THEM... but my man because the bad guy because stories got twisted.

Then, after it's all said and done... and we have worked things out, I get an email from someone who DOES NOT even KNOW my guy, and has known me only a few weeks at best telling me "I'm glad you're happy but I don't trust him"...

Then poems seem to pop up... and opinions are still running around. It's fine to have an opinion, but it's quite another thing to assault someone's relationship with another individual.

For 2 days I thought my world was ending. My heart was broken, and everything inside of me went numb because I let people get to me.

I AM THE DUMBASS...

We are all here for the same thing, to chat with friends, meet people, support each other etc...

I get that drama is all over and unavoidable...
but honestly, and please take no offense:

I am going to stay here on JSH.
Should you have something to say concerning my relationships with others, be sure you have all of the facts. Because IF YOU DO NOT, I WILL PUT YOU IN YOUR PLACE.

To the parties that seem to know what's best for me, because their puppet strings are attached to someone who has misguided them:

CUT THE STRINGS... THAT PERSON IS MAKING A FOOL OF YOU.



Thanks for everyone's concern. I do appreciate it.

Glad to see that you are staying! You make it funner here!

there is drama everywhere in every day life. how could anyone expect any site, any place of employment, anywhere to be drama free especially with a group of more than 40000??
you have to choose to be a part or it or ignore it or leave for awhile

Sing.........

Sorry to here about your troubles.

I have found in life that there is always some idiot/or idiots that want to rain on some one else's parade I don't know any of the People of whom You speak I just sort of stick to myself around here and chat with a very select few ,and not to insult any one but the folks I do have on my friends list range from a whopping 130 IQ intelligence level or higher.

My point is don't let some jack ass on the other end of a computer screen (from god knows where) affect your life in a negative manner the only opinion as far as you are concerned as a person that matters is your own. I'm no push over and what people see here in the forums is what they get in real life .I'm very capable of taking people down with words if I have to especially if they rub Me the wrong way and they have the straight jackets to prove it.

I have been where you are it's not a nice feeling you have my up most empathy.

Glad you decided to stay.....