Here is the scoop...if you want your relationship to work you must be best friends first and foremost...the sexual part of the relationship is an integral part but intimacy comes on a higher plane. Being with the other sharing all those little intricacies between two individuals.

Both of you should have your own time separate from the other as well as time together.

You need to be your own person...to make it all work!

Agree
Whole heartily

Agreed!!

Totally agree if I am not best friends with my lover then there is no lover...
You have to have the closeness and security of knowing that you can talk about anything and everything...

Best Friends? Nah...we just need an understanding of how our relationship will work. Own time separate? Oh hell yeah! Lemme have control of the remote at least two nights of the week.

Thanks, i'll keep that in mind

I have enough friends..lol.. what I need is someone.. I can really let all my sexual frustration out on..
you know punish them hard..
.and soft..and hard again..wink..
.. a friend tells you about their day.
. their problems and issues.. they want to borrow your power tools..

.. not what I'm looking for.. besides they never bring my power tools back...lol..
.. the only tool I want to be giving.her is...my...ohhh.. we look at that here comes my bus...ttyl..

in order for relationship to work

that is a REAL one
not some online fantasy version of one..

damn well beter be respect on both sides
a real partnership

its not about the sex thought that should be a part of it
it is not the only part and barely scratches surface
of what one man and one woman can truly be

that means if he has a bad day and the boss chewed him a new one
I am the one who listens and gives him space if he needs it to cool down without going into a prissy melt down of my own from not getting his attention

that means when I am busy with studying for a test or writing a paper
he understands I cannot spend two hours or more on phone listening to the play by play acct of his day and this does not mean that I do not care
or that I do not miss him..it just means I have **** to get done

that means when there is work to be done and sometimes things happen
then there is a mutual understanding that both care about each other
and would like to be together when things calm down again

that means if his kid calls and needs help rebuilding an engine
or mine needs help because the baby is running a temp and has a cold and my daughter in law is at her wit's end
that we understand this about one another

even when apart due to responsibility or illness or family obligations
one is thinking of the other
there is a tie that binds them together
that does not easily seperate

take another handful of popcorn.. and shoves it into his gob..hmm.mmm.. crunch crunch swallow.. so very true..^^^.

either you have never experience it
or you had it once upon a time
or you got hurt so bad you will never allow yourself to be open to another human being again
or you are only interested in finding the next piece

everyone has their own reasons for being where they are in life
not here to analyze just to answer the question

takes another handful of popcorn.. shove it into the gob. ..hmmn..mmmhmm...you.know.. crunch crunch..you might. crunch..be on to.. crunch swallow.. something there.. .... takes a sip of his Dr Pepper.. but on the other hand maybe not..

talking about peops in general no YOU in particular No1
no worries..if I were to analyze you based on what you post?


hahhaha Online Don Juan comes to mind

. well don't I feel like a jackass. .. here I was thinking everything was about me.. ..
You are sooo.. ez Weezy...lol.. I'd ask you to come out to play.. But I can hear your mother is calling you in the background... Weezy.ohh Weezy.... time for milk and cookies...

Ok.. .. but don't forget your milk and cookies.. .jk..

hang on I gotta get my glasses on slowed down..lol

Shhh..you are not helping..lol.. .
but you know she's probably right..
I am a bit of a smart ***.... but boy can that girl really lay down it...
.. it's still stinging just a little bit..

Only if you don't plan on having kids.
Friendships can last longer than romantic relationships, but they will never be as deep.
Unless, of course, you share an extreme event. Like combat. Which most people don't.

The depth of a romantic relationship is only plumbed when there is pregnancy.
It has to do with the hormones and chemical processes in the brain.


I don't think you know what intimacy means.

Sex is integral to a romantic relationship like food is integral to nutrition.
Sex isn't just a localized event having to do solely with the vagina, the penis, sperm, and eggs. There's a whole lot going on with the entire body and in the brain.


What drives people to want to share "all those little intricacies" are the same hormones that drive people to want to sleep together.

"Friends" share all those little intricacies because they already wanted to explore them, before the relationship, having interests in common. If they didn't already share some of those little intricacies, they wouldn't have become friends in the first place.


If you are truly bonded, pair bonded, in love, it doesn't really matter if you have your own time, separate.
Having the other person there, is just like having your left hand, or eyes, or head, there.


You need to realize that no matter if the person is attached to you at the hip, or has their own hobbies that separate you, you are still your own person.


Other than that, there's a reason why common advice is:
"If you want your relationship to last, don't live with friends."
"If you want your business to last, don't go into business with friends or family."
There's a reason why they were called "mom and pop" stores, and not "best friend" stores.

If you want a lasting relationship that is not really based on romantic love and pair bonding, then develop it into "best friends."
Otherwise, you have to surpass the boundaries inherent in "friendship."

Agree.....

Where is my best?

I wholeheartedly agree. If they cant play with me, I wouldn't want them to 'play' with me.

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