I seem to be attracting more guys...when I am looking for girls/women.

Like I see said in the other topic....set limits on who can contact you

...oh uhm...how? eheh

Go to your email settings

I find the mutual match is good as an ice-breaker, see who you find appealing and let them know. Works for me. And as Yellowrose10 said, set those message limits too. Good luck. xx

You don't.
You're a woman.
That's reality.
Sorry, LGBT is still an extremely minority subset of the population.
It used to be estimated at 10%, but in reality it's maybe 2%, 5% at most.

That means approximately 98% of the population is going to simply follow "straight" rules of attraction.

You will always attract more guys than girls.


That's cute.

Have you ever read the forums?

Have you never read threads like:
"why does no one read profiles? Why is it I say I don't want players, but players contact me? Why is it that those I don't want want me, but those I want don't want me? Why is it only people from far away contact me? Why am I only contacted by younguns? Why is it only fat ones email me? Why is it no one contacts me even though I say in my profile I'm smart, funny, kind, generous, educated?"

Threads like those, on any dating site, with any forums, are some of the most common threads started.


It's almost like you're saying "I seem to be attracting more salesman than the car I want" after setting foot on a car dealership lot.


That might help keep some from contacting you.
But don't be surprised if you see guys who "accidentally" chose to identify as a woman contact you.
People play around with their profiles, make new ones, just to get around filters.
There are a ton of profiles with something in it along the lines of "my profile says I'm 20, but I'm really 40, (or 40 instead of 20)I look young for my age (or act more mature) everyone says so, and I have more in common with those that age," or, "oops, my profile says 20 but I'm 40 and I can't change it, tee hee, I don't know how that happened."

And it doesn't help attract people.
I know on other sites when you choose filter settings for who can contact you they show up on your profile.
Sometimes, the longer or more you have, the more you are immediately dismissed as too much effort, or too controlling, by those you actually do want to contact you.