Why do you keep saying not to judge?.......I am not Judging I am jkust trying to find some encouraching words to help him, I couldcare less what sexual orientation he is, he is my friend, my son, I just want him to be happy. I want him to move forward with his life and find strength within himself to grow into the wonderful young man that I know he is. I am beginning to think I am on trial here, and can't understand why.

Tootie, if it weren't for people, like you, there are many who would have no where to turn. You're a gem and those who come to your with thier joys, sorrows and fears, do so because they know a gem when they 'feel' one. Just keep listening and being there!

Tell him that he has a heavenly father. That is who I turned to when I couldn't get any love from biological father. Even my step father showed more love than my biological father. In my case I just got bigger than my biological father and when I was in treatment I hugged him. Being his usual macho and chauvinistic self he wanted to break free. He tried to teach me to fight and it wasn't my style but I did learn how to bear hug. It helped me when guys tried to fight me growing up. They could get a few licks in but I have a bear hug that can literally break bones if I want it to. I learned it from watching Baby Huey when I was little.