i wonder why men dont like to take a chance on a loving nice sweet honest woman like me so what if im not skinny or thin yet still u should take a chance

most do

Ahh..is that a cigarette hanging out of your mouth..op?

Soo.hot for you..right now..jk

People take chances when the reward is seen to be greater than the risk.

With online dating sites the risk in contacting anyone is the same.
It's just an email.


Your competition is every single other woman on this website.
If a guy searches, he's presented with just a bunch of thumbnails to choose from.

If you pretend that looks matter not at all, the guy then has only a profile to go on.
Your profile focuses mostly on your problems, and what you want.
Your list of qualities about yourself is nothing a guy hasn't read on most any other woman's profile.

Would you take a chance on a guy that complained a lot, told you what he wanted from you, and then justified getting it with cliches?
Would you trust a guy that put his phone number in his profile and says "if interested, text me?"


What's kind of scary and maybe sad is how common is the essence of your profile on online dating sites.

How you've written it gives a lot of clues to less than reputable characters on how to play you to use you for their own short term interests.

I am gonna jump in here before you read these and feel like you are getting slammed. I understand need to vent sometimes. I think I just saw a BBW thread up in coffee chat area
and if you are not getting responses like you would like you could ask fir advice in rate my profile section

if you don't mind a suggestion, join the conversations in the forums and get to know people.
it's a great way to get to know people and also let them see what you're about.

speaking as a person who always felt a little less than in the looks department, I can tell you that I can tell you I've learned that confidence and being positive makes for an attractive personality.
a lot of guys do like that. they like an easy friendship where neither has to pretend to be better than what they are.
wish you the best of luck